You've got to be able to look at the mirror and smile at yourself. If you can't do that, you've got work to do. You have to learn to get along with yourself, to like yourself, to be proud of yourself. You've got to learn to celebrate yourself. You need to be able to love yourself before you can ever appreciate anyone else who does. You're worth it. Put the work in to have the best relationship with yourself that's possible.

Practice being kinder to yourself. Practice celebrating your accomplishments. Practice complimenting yourself. Give your best effort and at the end of the day, smile at another day well lived. Have the best possible relationship that you can with yourself so that you don't end up standing in your own way. Speak kindly to yourself and about yourself. If you can't appreciate yourself, then you won't be able to accept when someone else does either. You deserve your own love.

The single biggest thing I’ve done to improve my relationship with others, was to improve the relationship I have with myself. I became lovable when I was able to love myself. No one can love you, if you don’t love you. Accept, nurture and love yourself as you are. You’ll be amazed how much it will also change how others perceive you.

You must love yourself. Each and every day: You must give yourself kindness, compassion, grace, forgiveness, respect and trust. As you learn to love yourself more, the depth and magnitude by which you can love others will also increase. Walk through life always carrying love in your heart, especially towards yourself. When you speak and act from a place of love, people will know. That is what will make them feel loved and appreciated. Love always comes from within. Being more loving towards yourself will also cultivate greater patience, empathy and compassion towards others. If you're having a bad day, try and remedy that by making a special effort to be kinder, and more compassionate to yourself. Give yourself more love. Do something nice for yourself. Always return your heart to a state of love. This will dramatically increase the quality of your life, the relationship you have with yourself and others. When we are more secure, happy and loved we can also give more to others. Always cultivate love and appreciation for yourself. You deserve your own love!

Ask yourself honestly: what do you require to heal? Are you replaying and reliving the same trauma over and over again? Are you immersed in your suffering and pain? What would you need to do in order to heal yourself? What would allow you to come to terms with your reality? What would allow you to function in your circumstance, to make the most of things, as they are? Are you making things worse or better for yourself? Have you found acceptance over what you can't control and shifted your focus and energy to that which you can do? What is it you feel you need? How can you fill that need in the most positive, empowering way possible? Changing your mindset and focus can have a tremendous impact on the quality of your life. Work in your best interest, not against. It is your responsibility to advocate for yourself, to be your own friend, to engage in self-care. Self-care includes your emotional state, it includes your perspectives.

Learn to work with yourself in the moment. Handle only the moment as it comes. Learn to cooperate with the moment. Accept what is. Work with yourself and what is.