Ask yourself honestly: what do you require to heal? Are you replaying and reliving the same trauma over and over again? Are you immersed in your suffering and pain? What would you need to do in order to heal yourself? What would allow you to come to terms with your reality? What would allow you to function in your circumstance, to make the most of things, as they are? Are you making things worse or better for yourself? Have you found acceptance over what you can't control and shifted your focus and energy to that which you can do? What is it you feel you need? How can you fill that need in the most positive, empowering way possible? Changing your mindset and focus can have a tremendous impact on the quality of your life. Work in your best interest, not against. It is your responsibility to advocate for yourself, to be your own friend, to engage in self-care. Self-care includes your emotional state, it includes your perspectives.