Martha Beck quote: "The really potent part of love is that it allows you to carry around beliefs about yourself that make you feel special, desirable, precious, innately good. Your lover couldn't have seen [these qualities] in you, even temporarily, if they weren't part of your essential being."

The process of spotting fear and refusing to obey it is the source of all true empowerment.
MARTHA BECK

Good-looking individuals are treated better than homely ones in virtually every social situation, fr...
MARTHA BECK

Every day brings new choices.
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One reason most people never stop thinking is that mental frenzy keeps us from having to see the ups...
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Getting bogged down in old stories stops the flow of learning by censoring our perceptions, making u...
MARTHA BECK

To really boost your sense of self-efficacy, think of ways you could modify your usual tasks to suit...
MARTHA BECK

Everything I've ever taught in terms of self-help boils down to this - I cannot believe people k...
MARTHA BECK

All mental hygiene is based on the core practice of doing nothing. Most of us are good at wasting ti...
MARTHA BECK

I feel about aging the way William Saroyan said he felt about death: Everybody has to do it, but I a...
MARTHA BECK

If you're feeling intransigently ambivalent, it might pay to formally accept what's already ...
MARTHA BECK

Life is full of tough decisions, and nothing makes them easy. But the worst ones are really your per...
MARTHA BECK

Almost all my middle-aged and elderly acquaintances, including me, feel about 25, unless we haven...
MARTHA BECK

Our culture has created two almost irreconcilable descriptions of a 'good woman.' The first ...
MARTHA BECK

In one century, we've added 28 years to our average life span - a change so rapid that our brain...
MARTHA BECK

When your entire brain is active, that means you are taking everything in through all sense percepti...
MARTHA BECK

If you're totally sedentary and eat 2,500 calories a day, don't instantly go to 1,200 calori...
MARTHA BECK

Much protective self-criticism stems from growing up around people who wouldn't or couldn't ...
MARTHA BECK

Hopeful thinking can get you out of your fear zone and into your appreciation zone.
MARTHA BECK

When you meet people, show real appreciation, then genuine curiosity.
MARTHA BECK

Self-improvement books, friends, and polite strangers often tell soothing lies about our physical ap...
MARTHA BECK

The way we can allow ourselves to do what we need to, no matter what others may say or do, is to cho...
MARTHA BECK

Many of us have spent a lifetime trying to be what we're not, feeling lousy about ourselves when...
MARTHA BECK

Cheerfully fessing up to our failures turns crazy mind off, humility and compassion on. I learned th...
MARTHA BECK

Although beauty may be in the eye of the beholder, the feeling of being beautiful exists solely in t...
MARTHA BECK

Since our society equates happiness with youth, we often assume that sorrow, quiet desperation, and ...
MARTHA BECK

People are so afraid of authority figures and doctors are authority figures.
MARTHA BECK

Something in the human psyche confuses beauty with the right to be loved. The briefest glance at hum...
MARTHA BECK

What happens when we're willing to feel bad is that, sure enough, we often feel bad - but withou...
MARTHA BECK

When fear makes your choices for you, no security measures on earth will keep the things you dread f...
MARTHA BECK

Once we're willing to confront our emotional suffering, we begin making choices based on attract...
MARTHA BECK

All religious leaders and spiritual teachers emphasize finding a place within us that is true. Peopl...
MARTHA BECK

Our ideas about love and attractiveness are so primal, our need for belonging so intense, that most ...
MARTHA BECK

Ten years ago, I still feared loss enough to abandon myself in order to keep things stable. I'd ...
MARTHA BECK

Western democracies exalt the ideal of social equality, but our economic system arguably emerged fro...
MARTHA BECK

Standards of beauty are arbitrary. Body shame exists only to the extent that our physiques don't...
MARTHA BECK

No one else can take risks for us, or face our losses on our behalf, or give us self-esteem. No one ...
MARTHA BECK

Fact: From quitting smoking to skiing, we succeed to the degree we try, fail, and learn. Studies sho...
MARTHA BECK

My point is that perceptual bias can affect nut jobs and scientists alike. If we hold too rigidly to...
MARTHA BECK

Whether you've seen angels floating around your bedroom or just found a ray of hope at a lonely ...
MARTHA BECK

A designated patient 'carries' the group's dysfunction. A designated issue performs the ...
MARTHA BECK

Polite strangers often tell soothing lies about our physical appearance that prevent many of us from...
MARTHA BECK

In the developed world, hundreds of millions of us now face the bizarre problem of surfeit. Yet our ...
MARTHA BECK

The power to bring me out of solitude - or to push me back into it - had never belonged to another p...
MARTHA BECK

Every instance of heartbreak can teach us powerful lessons about creating the kind of love we really...
MARTHA BECK

Any transition serious enough to alter your definition of self will require not just small adjustmen...
MARTHA BECK

For the vast majority of world history, human life - both culture and biology - was shaped by scarci...
MARTHA BECK

Not everyone is equally good-looking.
MARTHA BECK

I suggest Substituting Inedible Nurturance, or SIN. Don't replace overeating with virtuous work ...
MARTHA BECK

Instead of fretting about getting everything done, why not simply accept that being alive means havi...
MARTHA BECK

Friends, there are many areas in which I need encouragement, but worrying is not one of them. I worr...
MARTHA BECK

Comparing and contrasting is a valuable human skill - and not just during high school English exams....
MARTHA BECK

Basic human contact - the meeting of eyes, the exchanging of words - is to the psyche what oxygen is...
MARTHA BECK

If I tell a man he needs to quit his soul-sucking job, he has to go home and fight with his wife or ...
MARTHA BECK

Loneliness is proof that your innate search for connection is intact.
MARTHA BECK

I cannot count the times I've been defeated, humiliated, or physically injured immediately after...
MARTHA BECK

My dog has the intellectual capacity of a lime wedge, yet even he possesses an elaborate set of assu...
MARTHA BECK

Indecision may come from an instinctive hunch that there's more you need to know - which means i...
MARTHA BECK

To complete your daily mental hygiene, observe any part of you that is upset or anxious, and offer t...
MARTHA BECK

Only since the Industrial Revolution have most people worked in places away from their homes or been...
MARTHA BECK

Denial exists because human infants, though equipped with trust-o-meters, are built to trust, blindl...
MARTHA BECK

The thing I love most about my job is watching people age backward, becoming more lively and energet...
MARTHA BECK

There are several ways to mess up your life by fighting to make your calendar age match your felt ag...
MARTHA BECK

As I obsess about my ancient problems, I feel more like I'm sinking in quicksand than lighting a...
MARTHA BECK

My own nature hovers between neurotic and paranoid. I've developed the habit of mentally listing...
MARTHA BECK

As a life coach, I love makeovers, from new clothes to surgery, pedicures to highlights. But redoing...
MARTHA BECK

Caring for your inner child has a powerful and surprisingly quick result: Do it and the child heals.
MARTHA BECK

The great power of separating the watching mind from the thinking mind is that the watching mind is ...
MARTHA BECK

Whoever said love is blind is dead wrong. Love is the only thing that lets us see each other with th...
MARTHA BECK

If you'd rather live surrounded by pristine objects than by the traces of happy memories, stay f...
MARTHA BECK

It takes about four days of virtuous living to create a little weight loss. That also happens to be ...
MARTHA BECK

Whatever causes you to drop your plan forward and open to your vision, your own, deeply personal vis...
MARTHA BECK

Sacred play is anything that takes you into that right hemisphere of your brain. It turns out that t...
MARTHA BECK

Our thoughts about an event can have a dramatic effect on how we go through the event itself. When o...
MARTHA BECK

The pretty girls get all the good stuff. Oh, God. So not true. I unlearned this after years of coach...
MARTHA BECK

Rest until you feel like playing, then play until you feel like resting, period. Never do anything e...
MARTHA BECK

Self-pity, a dominant characteristic of sociopaths, is also the characteristic that differentiates h...
MARTHA BECK

Even if you can be the world's best at one thing, you'll be the world's worst at somethi...
MARTHA BECK

In fact, when care appears, unconditional love often vanishes.
MARTHA BECK

To know what that true self is without social pressure is to know your true nature.
MARTHA BECK

I had a client who was a professional baseball player once, and he would go to clubs and dance for s...
MARTHA BECK

I practice staying calm all the time, beginning with situations that aren't tense.
MARTHA BECK

If you're living completely on your own, break out of solitary confinement. Seek to understand o...
MARTHA BECK

Focusing on one mildly disturbing, semi-controllable issue allows the mind to stuff much greater ter...
MARTHA BECK

I don't believe that there are no spiritual beings around us. I don't know what to call them...
MARTHA BECK

I have come to believe that there are infinite passageways out of the shadows, infinite vehicles to ...
MARTHA BECK

I am bewildering you a little. Just enough to help you forget what you came to believe, so that you ...
MARTHA BECK

The Joy Diet: 10 Daily Practices for a Happier Life.
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The way that other people judge me is none of my business.
MARTHA N. BECK

All for all, always.
MARTHA N. BECK

Just like any civilized person, you’ve spent practically your whole life torturing an innocent wil...
MARTHA N. BECK

The mirror image of suffering is the truth. Try it. Change the story. Change the course of your enti...
MARTHA N. BECK

Diana frowns. “You’re taking me home, right? You just said you would.” “Hoink hoink! Of cour...
MARTHA N. BECK

Have you ever felt your destiny unfolding, beloved? Have you experienced the intensity of the hunt, ...
MARTHA N. BECK

You are consciousness dressed in form, my love. Consciousness is divine. Matter is divine. Creation ...
MARTHA N. BECK

If anything is worth doing, it is worth doing it badly.
MARTHA N. BECK

Menders of all times and places have taught that silencing the thoughts in our heads and opening to ...
MARTHA N. BECK

Bad artists ignore the darkness of human existence. Good artists often get stuck there. Great artist...
MARTHA N. BECK

I am bewildering you a little. Just enough to help you forget what you came to believe, so that you ...
MARTHA N. BECK

If we look at the fact that record covers are essentially advertisements for the music, we acknowled...
BECK

I think trying to be offbeat is the most boring thing possible.
BECK

Every time you go in, it's like starting over. You don't know how you did the other records....
BECK

I wish I had more confidence. I think that's probably my Achilles' heel. If I had more, I pr...
BECK

I'm the artist formally known as Beck. I have a genius wig. When I put that wig on, then the true ge...
BECK

Two men look out the same prison bars; one sees mud and the other stars.
BECK

I'm the artist formally known as Beck. I have a genius wig. When I put that wig on, then the tru...
BECK

Usually, the music inspires the lyrics. The lyrics just sort of fall off like a bunch of crumbs from...
BECK

Art is the child of Nature; yes, her darling child, in whom we trace the features of the mother'...
BECK

Most of my early records were not cohesive at all, just collections of demos recorded in different y...
BECK

Every band I knew or played with had flyers and properly-recorded demos and contacts; I couldn't...
BECK

There are certain songs that just stick around and do something that transcends whatever time they w...
BECK

The cliche of what a rock star is - there's something elitist about it. I never related to that....
BECK

I enjoy the collaboration. I always envied people in bands who got to have that interaction. I'v...
BECK

I came up in a time when Springsteen, the Stones, Dylan, and the Beatles were still dominant. For ev...
BECK

Tonight the city is full of morgues, and all the toilets are overflowing. There's shopping malls...
BECK

When my nephew was 3 and 4, he would say the most genius things. He said, You're hammer macho wi...
BECK

To me, 'rock star' conjures up something like a mystic: someone who sees himself as above ot...
BECK

Being able to take musical ideas through every iteration is attractive to me. Granted, not everyone&...
BECK

There are a lot of people who really abused sampling and gave it a bad name, by just taking people&#...
BECK

Every time you go in, it's like starting over. You don't know how you did the other records. You're ...
BECK

As society changes, as politics change, as people change, certain songs still seem to resonate.
BECK

I'm just taking one step at a time. I could zigzag one way, but it's not usually on purpose.
BECK

When I started out playing small clubs, you could feel the room recoil from certain kinds of songs. ...
BECK

If you look at an old piece of sheet music, there's all kinds of text on it, there are ads, ther...
BECK

I'm really fascinated by lingos and colloquialisms that are outmoded and have gone by the waysid...
BECK

Studying music in a conservatory would be stifling for me, although I respect people who can do it. ...
BECK

I hear a lot of bad TV commercials that try to sound like Where It's At. That pretty much turned...
BECK

We all have our inner demons.
GLENN BECK

I cherish my privacy, and woe betide anyone who tries to interfere with that.
JEFF BECK

Nonetheless, we continue to be obsessed with finding or inventing a European nation which, as in the...
ULRICH BECK

When they come to Europe, they are confronted by still closed borders. Thus, the concept of open bor...
ULRICH BECK

But it then very soon became clear that the response of a war against terrorism, initially conceived...
ULRICH BECK

I held a conference in Harvard where Americans said they didn't believe in risk. They thought it...
ULRICH BECK

I forced myself to think what is the new concept and it became clear to me that it was risk, not onl...
ULRICH BECK

This experience actually means the very opposite: the largest military power was unable to stop such...
ULRICH BECK

And the terror itself is an example of the world's uncontrollability.
ULRICH BECK

Initially, the horrific images of September 11th triggered an enormous wave of solidarity.
ULRICH BECK

You need education. You need subsistence protection. We need jobs and social security. These are pre...
ULRICH BECK

In the first instance, therefore, global terrorism created a kind of global community sharing a comm...
ULRICH BECK

Relinquishing apparent national sovereignty does not have to entail a loss of national sovereignty, ...
ULRICH BECK

You cannot make peace with terrorists. The normal dividing lines between war and peace do not apply.
ULRICH BECK

Global conditions are far too complex to be able to imagine that they could ever be really controlle...
ULRICH BECK

Western countries in particular can today no longer be separated from Muslim societies, because they...
ULRICH BECK

And it also became clear that these conditions of inequality and historical injustice have given ris...
ULRICH BECK

You could say that we are living in an internally globalized country.
ULRICH BECK

The basic assumption of the secular society is that modernity overcomes religion.
ULRICH BECK

And therefore we must seek dialogue in this networked world. We must ask which voice was actually at...
ULRICH BECK

We do not yet have the solutions to these questions, but the awareness that we live in an endangered...
ULRICH BECK

That was the first major social sciences conference at which social scientists from all cultures wan...
ULRICH BECK

We are living in a world that is beyond controllability.
ULRICH BECK

All theory of modernity in sociology suggests that the more modernity there is, the less religion. I...
ULRICH BECK

Neither science, nor the politics in power, nor the mass media, nor business, nor the law nor even t...
ULRICH BECK

The world has become so complex that the idea of a power in which everything comes together and can ...
ULRICH BECK

The idea that you surrender your identity when you relinquish national powers is unhelpful. No, inde...
ULRICH BECK

Whether you draw diagrams that generate code or you type at a browser, you are coding.
KENT BECK

We are caught in the contradiction of finding life a rather perplexing puzzle which causes us a lot ...
JOKO BECK

There were a lot of police resources down there.
ALAN BECK

A boy is a magical creature you can lock him out of your workshop, but you can't lock him out of you...
ALAN BECK

What is a husband? He is the one who, with a touch, can bring back the starlight and glow of years l...
ALAN BECK

Boys are found everywhere on top of, underneath, inside of, climbing on, swinging from, running arou...
ALAN BECK

I thought it was kind of silly when we started looking into it.
ALAN BECK

If I'm on form and I'm not being bothered too much by mental problems or whatever, I can whi...
JEFF BECK

As an actor, a lot of things you do, people don't see it.
BECK BENNETT

I redefined how I ate and exercised and have continued to keep that up because it feels great.
BECK BENNETT

Working with children has done well for me. I don't find them intolerable or frustrating. They&#...
BECK BENNETT

I would definitely like to start working with more people over age 7.
BECK BENNETT

Kids have a weird honesty, especially in their reaction to things where a lot of older people who ha...
BECK BENNETT

A girl is Innocence playing in the mud, Beauty standing on its head, and Motherhood dragging a doll ...
ALLAN BECK

Little girls are the nicest things that happen to people.
ALLAN BECK

All men are created equal. It is what you do from there that makes the difference. We are all free a...
GLENN BECK

A boy is a magical creature - you can lock him out of your workshop, but you can't lock him out of y...
ALLAN BECK

A boy is a magical creature--you can lock him out of your workshop, but you can't lock him out of yo...
ALLAN BECK

If you have a priest that is pushing social justice, go find another parish. Go alert your bishop.
GLENN BECK

What I'm trying to do is get this message out about self-empowerment, entrepreneurial spirit and...
GLENN BECK

Developer testing is an important step towards accountability. It gives developers a way to demonstr...
KENT BECK

Accordingly, globalization is not only something that will concern and threaten us in the future, bu...
ULRICH BECK

Let me tell you, it is still morning in America. It just happens to be kind of a head pounding, hung...
GLENN BECK

I think I've explored hip-hop for a while, and felt like I wanted to get into where that music was c...
BECK HANSEN

I'm the artist formally known as Beck. I have a genius wig. When I put that wig on, then the true ge...
BECK HANSEN

I think you just end up following into the things that you're familiar with -- that you're comfortab...
BECK HANSEN

Tonight the city is full of morgues, and all the toilets are overflowing. There's shopping malls com...
BECK HANSEN

When you're true to yourself - not the audience that reads about me in the newspaper or sees a c...
GLENN BECK

My brother was four years older and always building tree houses. Whether I wanted to or not, I learn...
MICHAEL BECK

I lived near Santa Cruz for ten years, and the whole time, it bothered me what an exclusionary defin...
KENT BECK

Sometimes the hardest part of the journey is believing you're worthy of the trip.
GLENN BECK

There is no such thing as a lockdown in a 100-bed dorm that's in name only. That's like saying you'v...
ALLEN BECK

The problem is we are lumping everybody together.
ALLEN BECK

He's forced into that. No astute correctional officials will voluntarily put their highest-risk inma...
ALLEN BECK

You get this local culture that develops in the legal system, these tough-on-crime judges -- usually...
ALLEN BECK

We should reject big government and look inside ourselves for all the things that built this country...
GLENN BECK

'Hello my name is the Republican Party and I got a problem. I'm addicted to spending and big...
GLENN BECK

People should be free, people should be unencumbered by regulation as much as possible, that big gov...
GLENN BECK

It's a diabolical business. I can't imagine how hellish it must be to be hounded like Amy Wi...
JEFF BECK

Remember, beneath every cynic there lies a romantic, and probably an injured one.
GLENN BECK

I try to become a singer. The guitar has always been abused with distortion units and funny sorts of...
JEFF BECK

We have self-centered minds which get us into plenty of trouble. If we do not come to understand the...
JOKO BECK

Enlightenment is not something you achieve. It is the absence of something. All your life you have b...
JOKO BECK

Timothy McVeigh was a coward. Violence is the stupid way out. It'll discredit any real legitmate...
GLENN BECK

I was really small when jazz broke through in England and I can still remember sneaking off to the l...
JEFF BECK

If life were easy, then it would be boring.
CHARLES BECK

The really potent part of love is that it allows you to carry around beliefs about yourself that make you feel special, desirable, precious, innately good. Your lover couldn't have seen [these qualities] in you, even temporarily, if they weren't part of your essential being.

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Martha Beck

The really potent part of love is that it allows you to carry around beliefs about yourself that make you feel special, desirable, precious, innately good. Your lover couldn't have seen [these qualities] in you, even temporarily, if they weren't part of your essential being.

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