Henry Cloud quote: "Psalm 1, which compares us to trees planted by streams of water, suggests that our growth has different “seasons.” Some seasons are for planting (spring), some for nourishing (summer), some for harvesting (fall), and some for dying (winter). Some Christians want every day to be harvest time. Therapists are often asked, “Why does it take so long for someone to get better?"

Everything has seasons, and we have to be able to recognize when something's time has passed and...
HENRY CLOUD

When people are vulnerable to control, they feel that they are selfish for deciding what to do with ...
HENRY CLOUD

Encourage literally came from "in courage." The courage is put "into" you from outside. Our characte...
HENRY CLOUD

A culture is like an immune system. It operates through the laws of systems, just like a body. If a ...
HENRY CLOUD

I fell in love with the topic of leadership. For three decades, that has been a major focus of my ha...
HENRY CLOUD

You cannot fix people who will not take feedback, because from their perspective, they do not have a...
HENRY CLOUD

Training moments occur when both parents and children do their jobs. The parent's job is to make the...
HENRY CLOUD

If your boundary training consists only of words, you are wasting your breath. But if you 'do' bound...
HENRY CLOUD

Don't go overboard in praising required behavior: 'We have only done our duty' (Luke 17:10). But do ...
HENRY CLOUD

Leave your pride, ego, and narcissism somewhere else. Reactions from those parts of you will reinfor...
HENRY CLOUD

We change our behavior when the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of changing. ...
HENRY CLOUD

Don't use all-or-nothing thinking. Take each day as its own day, and don't worry about it if...
HENRY CLOUD

If you are building a culture where honest expectations are communicated and peer accountability is ...
HENRY CLOUD

Closed systems run down and get more chaotic over time. Always get better by being 'open' to...
HENRY CLOUD

The extent to which two people in a relationship can bring up and resolve issues is a critical marke...
HENRY CLOUD

Boundaries define us. They define what is me and what is not me. A boundary shows me where i end and...
HENRY CLOUD

There is a big difference between hurt and harm. We all hurt sometimes in facing hard truths, but it...
HENRY CLOUD

Endings are a part of life, and we are actually wired to execute them. But because of trauma, develo...
HENRY CLOUD

The physicality of a real relationship - one that encompasses mind, body and soul - ultimately makes...
HENRY CLOUD

Leaders set a very clear path every day, in a thousand different ways, of what the people must atten...
HENRY CLOUD

Denial of one's need for others is the most common type of defense against bonding. If people come f...
HENRY CLOUD

We often hear of someone saying, ‘So you don’t trust me’ or ‘Are you questioning my integrit...
HENRY CLOUD

fruit of passive-aggressive people. These people resist demands by indirect tactics. They will not t...
HENRY CLOUD

The sad thing is that many of us come to Christ because we are sinners, and then spend the rest of o...
HENRY CLOUD

Many people are too quick to trust someone in the name of forgiveness and not make sure that the oth...
HENRY CLOUD

This is one of the marks of a truly safe person: they are confrontable.
HENRY CLOUD

We’ve all been around middle-aged people who have the boundaries of an eighteen-month-old. They ha...
HENRY CLOUD

If people are really narcissistic or have a need to be seen as more than they really are, or to be a...
HENRY CLOUD

One of the first signs that you’re beginning to develop boundaries is a sense of resentment, frust...
HENRY CLOUD

We can't manipulate people into swallowing our boundaries by sugarcoating them. Boundaries are a "li...
HENRY CLOUD

When we begin to set boundaries with people we love, a really hard thing happens: they hurt. They ma...
HENRY CLOUD

Loyalty is important, one of the most important character traits we can have. But loyal love does no...
HENRY CLOUD

The best way to advance in a career is to get great results while working with people.
HENRY CLOUD

Values are sometimes worth living and dying for, and are certainly worth dating and breaking up over...
HENRY CLOUD

Be wary of someone who has never failed, or seem to have no faults... Too good to be true usually is...
HENRY CLOUD

Self-centered people often get angry when someone tells them no.

Stan said yes out of fea...
HENRY CLOUD

It is extremely important to be able to make negative assertions. We must be able to say what is ‘...
HENRY CLOUD

If we demand perfection from ourselves we are not living in the real world...The inherent problem in...
HENRY CLOUD

Passing thoughts can sometimes indicate unconscious preoccupations that may need to be examined.
HENRY CLOUD

Christian psychologist is called in; if it’s a spiritual problem, the pastor gets the call. We ass...
HENRY CLOUD

The truth we need to achieve has many aspects. It includes the developmental needs of the real self,...
HENRY CLOUD

Something about me scares people away.
HENRY CLOUD

Through it all, she found God to be faithful to his promises to sustain her.
HENRY CLOUD

Many people give out of obligation and compulsion, which leads to resentment.
HENRY CLOUD

Many frustrated people try to live their lives as others have defined them.
HENRY CLOUD

2 Thessalonians 3:10, “If a man will not work, he shall not eat.
HENRY CLOUD

(re: Grace and Truth + Time = Growth)

"Grace is the first ingredient necessary for growin...
HENRY CLOUD

The law of sowing and reaping is the most trustworthy law of behavior.
HENRY CLOUD

Freedom comes from taking responsibility; bondage comes from giving it away.
HENRY CLOUD

Many people do not think very often about what they think about. They just let their thoughts live i...
HENRY CLOUD

This is the true selfishness: self-centeredness.
HENRY CLOUD

A despairing person should have kindness from his friend, said Job, “lest he forsake the fear of t...
HENRY CLOUD

Sometimes we represent our weakness as if it were bad. We don’t think it’s okay to be weak…We ...
HENRY CLOUD

Other Christians may try to tell you what your values should be, but they are not perfect. You must ...
HENRY CLOUD

It is easy to say we love others, but difficult to allow them the freedom inherent in love.
HENRY CLOUD

WHAT I WAS TALKING ABOUT WAS BONDING. Bonding is one of the most basic and foundational ideas in lif...
HENRY CLOUD

Time is an important ingredient for growth, but sometimes we pass through time and get better; at ot...
HENRY CLOUD

There is no simple theological answer to pain; the answer is a relationship with God in the midst of...
HENRY CLOUD

Grace is the first ingredient necessary for growing up in the image of God. Grace is unbroken, unint...
HENRY CLOUD

Victims declare,“The world is responsible for me,” and never do anything to better their quality...
HENRY CLOUD

Even with the desire for a better life, we can be reluctant to do the work of boundaries because it ...
HENRY CLOUD

Sometimes, we have bad on the inside and good on the outside. In these instances, we need to be able...
HENRY CLOUD

Many people will not be honest because they fear loss of intimacy and togetherness. In reality, hone...
HENRY CLOUD

In short, boundaries help us keep the good in and the bad out. They guard our treasures...
HENRY CLOUD

As a psychologist, I can tell you that there are people who look very good in a group, but they'...
HENRY CLOUD

In a very real way, ownership is the essence of leadership. When you are 'ridiculously in charge...
HENRY CLOUD

People with a style of denial and blaming are definitely on the list of unsafe people to avoid. 10.
HENRY CLOUD

We grow in part by confessing our faults and weaknesses to each other (James 5:16; Eccl. 4:10). If w...
HENRY CLOUD

You aren't alive if you aren't in need.
HENRY CLOUD

You whites make all the ammunition.
RED CLOUD

We do not want riches, we want peace and love.
RED CLOUD

I am poor and naked, but I am the chief of the nation. We do not want riches but we do want to train...
RED CLOUD

We're talking safety of citizens here. We've got to get answers here. We can't sit here and let vehi...
BILL CLOUD

Bad news never gets better with age.
BILL CLOUD

The Old Testament prophets and the apostles of the New Testament all declared that in the end of day...
BILL CLOUD

I'm going to ask the lawyers if we can call each gallon a violation. Hey, when you price by the gall...
BILL CLOUD

There's plenty of gas, but everybody and his brother went and filled up everything from SUVs to go-k...
BILL CLOUD

The white man has got the gold out of the land which belonged to the red man.
RED CLOUD

They made us many promises, more than I can remember, but they kept only one; they promised to take ...
RED CLOUD

The Great Spirit will not make me suffer because I am ignorant. He will put me in a place where I sh...
RED CLOUD

We do not want riches, we want peace and love
RED CLOUD

Getting the goodness of light-skinned society ... Learn to live among them, learn their education, t...
RED CLOUD

They made us many promises, more than I can remember, but they never kept but one; they promised to ...
RED CLOUD

When we acknowledge that all of life is sacred and that each act is an act of choice and therefore s...
SCOUT CLOUD LEE

I would rather be right than President.
HENRY CLAY

There is one day that is ours. Thanksgiving Day is the one day that is purely American.
O. HENRY

I see America spreading disaster. I see America as a black curse upon the world. I see a long night ...
HENRY MILLER

We do not talk - we bludgeon one another with facts and theories gleaned from cursory readings of ne...
HENRY MILLER

It is true I had been successful on a small scale in overcoming one of the main difficulties in the ...
HENRY BESSEMER

The people who influence you are the people who believe in you.
HENRY DRUMMOND

The ecstatic insanity of romantic pursuit can be so enhanced by music that entire romantic conquests...
HENRY ROLLINS

Oklahomans value our children and our seniors. Oklahomans value traditions of faith. Oklahomans valu...
BRAD HENRY

We must give Oklahoma families the opportunity to thrive and prosper. We must give all Oklahomans th...
BRAD HENRY

The worst thing we can do is to do nothing.
BRAD HENRY

In charting our course to the future, we are mindful of our path from the past.
BRAD HENRY

The only thing holding us back is ourselves.
BRAD HENRY

The status quo is simply unacceptable.
BRAD HENRY

Reading builds the educated and informed electorate so vital to our democracy.
BRAD HENRY

For only by nurturing the minds and strengthening the values of our children can we give them an opp...
BRAD HENRY

It is a paradox that far too few Americans participate in the wonderful ritual of democracy that we ...
BRAD HENRY

It is only through raising expectations and striving for excellence that our children can reach thei...
BRAD HENRY

Resilience is woven deeply into the fabric of Oklahoma. Throw us an obstacle, and we grow stronger.
BRAD HENRY

No other investment yields as great a return as the investment in education. An educated workforce i...
BRAD HENRY

Education is not solely about earning a great living. It means living a great life.
BRAD HENRY

What unites Oklahomans today is what has always united us: Our unshakable faith. Our love of family ...
BRAD HENRY

A fundamental duty of government is to protect its people.
BRAD HENRY

There is too much at stake for us to surrender to the politics of polarization.
BRAD HENRY

No matter where you stand politically - even if you're unsure of what your political ideology is...
BRAD HENRY

One's destination is never a place but rather a new way of looking at things.
HENRY MILLER

The Bible is worth all the other books which have ever been printed.
PATRICK HENRY

I don't believe in fate or destiny. I believe in various degrees of hatred, paranoia, and abando...
HENRY ROLLINS

Sculpture is an art of the open air. Daylight, sunlight, is necessary to it, and for me, its best se...
HENRY MOORE

My version of Superman is essentially of a guy who has spent his whole life alone.
HENRY CAVILL

No one should have to choose between medicine and other necessities. No one should have to use the e...
BRAD HENRY

There cannot be a crisis next week. My schedule is already full.
HENRY KISSINGER

To succeed in hockey, you need teamwork.
HENRY SAMUELI

Musicians should not play music. Music should play musicians.
HENRY ROLLINS

Quality means doing it right when no one is looking.
HENRY FORD

My optimism wears heavy boots and is loud.
HENRY ROLLINS

You can't build a reputation on what you are going to do.
HENRY FORD

Life is now a war zone, and as such, the number of people considered disposable has grown exponentia...
HENRY GIROUX

Perfect freedom is as necessary to the health and vigor of commerce as it is to the health and vigor...
PATRICK HENRY

Capital punishment is as fundamentally wrong as a cure for crime as charity is wrong as a cure for p...
HENRY FORD

I think that humans have a huge capacity to carry pain and sadness. There are things that haunt us o...
HENRY ROLLINS

In New York it seems like there's no Monday or Saturday or Sunday. The town is always moving. Th...
THIERRY HENRY

Progress requires setbacks; the only sure way to avoid failure is not to try.
HENRY SPENCER

A beach is not only a sweep of sand, but shells of sea creatures, the sea glass, the seaweed, the in...
HENRY GRUNWALD

After a storm comes a calm.
MATTHEW HENRY

Ninety percent of the politicians give the other ten percent a bad reputation.
HENRY KISSINGER

In winter, I plot and plan. In spring, I move.
HENRY ROLLINS

The month of November makes me feel that life is passing more quickly. In an effort to slow it down,...
HENRY ROLLINS

The moment one gives close attention to any thing, even a blade of grass it becomes a mysterious, aw...
HENRY MILLER

The creative habit is like a drug. The particular obsession changes, but the excitement, the thrill ...
HENRY MOORE

There is danger in reckless change, but greater danger in blind conservatism.
HENRY GEORGE

There is one rule for the industrialist and that is: Make the best quality of goods possible at the ...
HENRY FORD

Would any one believe that I am master of slaves by my own purchase? I am drawn along by the general...
PATRICK HENRY

Shall we, who have laid the proud British lion at our feet, now be afraid of his whelps?
PATRICK HENRY

It is a debt we owe to the purity of our religion to show that it is at variance with that law which...
PATRICK HENRY

Unite liberality with a just frugality; always reserve something for the hand of charity; and never ...
PATRICK HENRY

The great object is that every man be armed.
PATRICK HENRY

This is all the inheritance I give to my dear family. The religion of Christ will give them one whic...
PATRICK HENRY

Fear is the passion of slaves.
PATRICK HENRY

The distinctions between Virginians, Pennsylvanians, New Yorkers, and New Englanders are no more. I ...
PATRICK HENRY

We are not weak if we make a proper use of those means which the God of Nature has placed in our pow...
PATRICK HENRY

Do you remember any instance where tyranny was destroyed and freedom established on its ruins, among...
PATRICK HENRY

If this be treason, make the most of it!
PATRICK HENRY

I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
PATRICK HENRY

No man is great enough or wise enough for any of us to surrender our destiny to. The only way in whi...
HENRY MILLER

So stick up ivy and the bays, and then restore the heathen ways, green will remind you of the Spring...
HENRY VAUGHAN

You need a little bit of insanity to do great things.
HENRY ROLLINS

I wonder what it's like to be from a state that is spread across a few islands way out in the Pa...
HENRY ROLLINS

By nature and doctrines I am addicted to the habit of discovering choice places wherein to feed.
O. HENRY

The Venturer is one who keeps his eye on the hedgerows and wayside groves and meadows while he trave...
O. HENRY

I never have time to read now. I did all my reading before I was twenty.
O. HENRY

It couldn't have happened anywhere but in little old New York.
O. HENRY

It'll be a great place if they ever finish it.
O. HENRY

Whenever he saw a dollar in another man's hands he took it as a personal grudge, if he couldn...
O. HENRY

East is East, and West is San Francisco, according to Californians. Californians are a race of peopl...
O. HENRY

When one loves one's Art no service seems too hard.
O. HENRY

Inject a few raisins of conversation into the tasteless dough of existence.
O. HENRY

By rights you're a king. If I was you, I'd call for a new deal.
O. HENRY

It brings up happy old days when I was only a farmer and not an agriculturist.
O. HENRY

If men knew how women pass the time when they are alone, they'd never marry.
O. HENRY

I have been called 'The American De Maupassant.' Well, I never wrote a filthy word in my lif...
O. HENRY

She plucked from my lapel the invisible strand of lint (the universal act of woman to proclaim owner...
O. HENRY

Write what you like; there is no other rule.
O. HENRY

I once asked Ozzy Osbourne, truly one of my favorite people in the world, if he was cool with singin...
HENRY ROLLINS

If I had asked people what they wanted, they would have said faster horses.
HENRY FORD

Republicans just can't help themselves. They get in front of a live microphone and within a few ...
HENRY ROLLINS

The bronze powder business, however, no longer required my personal attention, and was well managed ...
HENRY BESSEMER

Seven-11 is the pulse-beat of America. I think that Bruce Springsteen should do a song about a 7-11 ...
HENRY ROLLINS

$250,000 isn't a lot, but it is enough to make a statement. We are looking for projects that will be...
AL HENRY

I'm proud of our team. We great leadership from our four seniors - Peter Jerome, Josh Trottier, Alex...
AL HENRY

Give credit where credit is due. Fargo South is a machine.
AL HENRY

This is an OK way to end it. As far as I'm concerned, our team is the winner.
AL HENRY

The tides which flow and lapse in the Bristol Channel are often distained by the freshets of many st...
HENRY WILLIAMSON

Towards four o'clock, the rebels felt strong enough to take the offensive. A brigade with a batt...
HENRY VILLARD

Today, most believers are segregated and isolated in their church or in their home. If believers acc...
HENRY HON

Unity is vision; it must have been part of the process of learning to see.
HENRY ADAMS

You are the reason I don't want to die all the time. When I am with you, life is worth living. Tim...
HENRY ROLLINS

I was influenced by Ray Harryhausen and Lotte Reiniger, with her twitchy, cutout animation, which I ...
HENRY SELICK

The world is the mirror of myself dying.
HENRY MILLER

In the attempt to defeat death man has been inevitably obliged to defeat life, for the two are inext...
HENRY MILLER

This is all the Inheritance I can give to my dear Family. The Religion of Christ can give them one w...
PATRICK HENRY

There is no longer any room for hope. If we wish to be freeif we mean to preserve inviolate those in...
PATRICK HENRY

Suffer not yourselves to be betrayed with a kiss. Ask yourselves how this gracious reception of our ...
PATRICK HENRY

It is natural to man to indulge in the illusions of hope. We are apt to shut our eyes against a pain...
PATRICK HENRY

Is the relinquishment of the trial by jury and the liberty of the press necessary for your liberty? ...
PATRICK HENRY

They are all gone into the world of light, and I alone sit lingering here.
HENRY VAUGHAN

All this, and Heaven too!
PHILIP HENRY

To burn a CDR of music you like to give as a gift to someone you wish to become closer to is a cold,...
HENRY ROLLINS

Governments should not be able to bulldoze a person's home or business to benefit other individu...
HENRY BONILLA

A state-based regulatory system is quite burdensome. It allows price controls to create market disto...
HENRY PAULSON

Exercise is bunk. If you are healthy, you don't need it: if you are sick you should not take it.
HENRY FORD

I emphasize that virtually every engineering calculation is ultimately a failure calculation, becaus...
HENRY PETROSKI

In Israel, there's a lot to learn from anyone, because to live there you've got to deal with...
HENRY ROLLINS

'Immortals' was very much a martial arts based training program - a lot of body weight stuff...
HENRY CAVILL

When I'm off the road, and I can really control my diet down to the calorie, I juice seven days ...
HENRY ROLLINS

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