I am capable of doing things, but I am not what I do. I am the being who does those things. Therefore, I can change what I do, or even do nothing at all, and still be me.

I am capable of feeling, but I am not what I feel. I am the being who experiences my feelings. Therefore, I can change what I feel and still be me.

I am capable of relating to others, but I am not those relationships. I am the being who is capable of relating. Therefore I can change who I relate to and how I relate to them and still be me.

When you really listen to other people, they feel like they know you better even though you have told them nothing about yourself.

Wanting it counts for nothing - we get the consequences of what we do.

Change requires impulse control – learning to put a space between the urge and the action so we can make a different choice.