Without words like blame, victim, and fault, I do believe about 50% of the unhappiness in the world would be cured.

A lot of that was my fault. I got too caught up in the referees. I'll take the blame on that. I didn't put him down there. It's my fault.

The victim mindset produces a delusion of fault and blame that blinds you from the simple truth of cause and effect.

That drew a laugh from Jessamy, but he said, after a moment: “You had better flay me. It was my fault—all my fault!”

“I was wondering how long it would be before you contrived to convince yourself that you were to blame,” said Alverstoke caustically. “I haven’t the slightest wish to know how you arrived at such an addlebrained conclusion, so don’t put yourself to the trouble of telling me!

Continuing to play the victim is a self-fulfilling prophecy. Blaming others for your station in life will indeed make you a victim but the perpetrator will be your own self, not life or those around you.

If your life is not to your liking then it is no ones fault but your own. Sorry if that offends you but I believe that you are the only person who can truly dictate your circumstances. There's no-one else to blame or congratulate other than yourself.