What makes a narcissistic mother so scary? Her absolute power and controlling influence. A narcissistic mother is your only 'friend,' at least until you're old enough to go to school.
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Related There's a definition of narcissism that when a parent is narcissistic, instead of the child seei... SUSAN SULLIVAN Are you taking us to the beach?" - Dan Cahill JUDE WATSON I have friends who say, 'You just can't understand what it's like to be a mother until y... NATASHA LEGGERO It looks ancient," - Amy Cahill JUDE WATSON It SMELLS ancient," - Dan Cahill JUDE WATSON Palm trees were fanned by a warm, light breeze, and they rolled down their windows to smell the sea. JUDE WATSON We all show facets, to your mother, or to your boyfriend, or a friend. You're always a bit diffe... EVA GREEN I can tell you that you will have your hearts broken more by the people you love than by the people ... MARGARET PETERSON HADDIX You've got to be a little vicious. You've got to be narcissistic. You've got to be on fi... HOWARD STERN Sometimes, I look out at nature and I think, 'Everything here is obeying my conjecture.' It&... GEOFFREY WEST I think it is important to be a friend to your kids. 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DAN SAVAGE I read so many things because a colleague or a friend will post something, and I'll be able to l... OLIVIA WILDE You know, I'm a really individualistic person. I'm extremely narcissistic and egocentric, to... MARJANE SATRAPI Starting a new job is always scary, or at least for me it's always scary. It's like the firs... SEAN MAHER My mother-in-law's from Norway, and she's always liked old-school remedies. LINDSEY VONN For me, surfing is as close a connection I can have with Mother Nature. To surf, you're riding a... XAVIER RUDD When you're an actor in grade school, high school, college, whatever, you start to realize what ... BRYAN CRANSTON At the end of the day, don't forget that you're a person, don't forget you're a moth... INDRA NOOYI A fluent tongue is the only thing a mother don't like her daughter to resemble her in. RICHARD BRINSLEY SHERIDAN I'm grateful to intelligent people. That doesn't mean educated. That doesn't mean intell... MAYA ANGELOU Biology is the least of what makes someone a mother. OPRAH WINFREY I think the best time to approach a woman is actually after her workout. When you're working out... NIKKI BELLA It's hard enough to be a middle-school kid, because you're dealing with so many facets of yo... RICK RIORDAN If you're big at school, you've really got two choices. You're going to be a target. If ... JAMES CORDEN Childhood is so important. Without a loving one, you're vulnerable throughout your life. We'... JAMES FOX When you're a pro athlete, life is very narcissistic - everything relates back to you and how yo... ABBY WAMBACH There's all kinds of mothers, so to use the label 'mother' and to think you really under... PHYLICIA RASHAD My mother-in-law has come round to our house at Christmas seven years running. This year we're h... LES DAWSON When a 12-year-old, a 13-year-old, so desperately wants a baby what she's looking for is the kin... ELLEN BARKIN Your father tells you a story when you're a kid, or your mother or your uncle or whoever it is. ... DAVID CHASE I'm Method trained. How is this character like me? What does she think of her mother? What does ... ELLEN BARKIN In the case of maternal health care, you look at, well naturally, it's the mother who's the ... JACQUELINE NOVOGRATZ If you're old enough to father a child, then you're old enough to accept financial responsib... DOUG DUCEY Everybody seems to be wasting their time online. There is such a narcissistic attitude. It's suc... SEBASTIAN MANISCALCO If you go looking for a friend, you're going to find they're very scarce. If you go out to b... ZIG ZIGLAR My mother, who died aged 82, had Alzheimer's. Losing your memory is bad enough, but everything s... BONNIE TYLER Even losing my mother, I wanted my mother. That's who you want instinctually when you're hav... TIG NOTARO I've got a few ideas," (Amy) admitted. "But I don't know where we're going in the long term. I mean ... RICK RIORDAN It's frightening, the way life speeds up. When you're at school, time can't go fast enou... BRUCE FORSYTH It's much more work for the mother of an autistic child to have a job, because working with an a... TEMPLE GRANDIN I have heard, 'Never go to bed angry,' and that makes sense. Unless you're always checki... DIPLO You're not ethnic enough. You're not fat enough. You're not thin enough. You're not ... NIA VARDALOS Very often, people talk about mothers, and they think that mother has to lose her sexuality. Mother ... SHERYL LEE RALPH Sometimes you're not always on or at your best, especially during auditions. So if you go in and... JACK HUSTON Why, on my mother's birthday, am I thinking about 'Father Knows Best?' At our house, mot... TOM SHALES I used to sneak into my mother's closet and try to wear her lingerie to school. VANITY You can't really class all reality shows together. For instance, 'Top Chef' is about tal... SIENNA GUILLORY It's bizarre to have both a super-connected and disconnected world. Like, you can use Twitter in... PETE WENTZ I lived with my mother all my life until she died, and I don't really think I knew her, because ... HARRIET WALTER My view is that life is too short. I'm not being melodramatic or anything, but when your mother ... SAFFRON ALDRIDGE Figure skating has been a great influence for me. I took dance at the School of American Ballet, whi... VERA WANG When your mother asks, 'Do you want a piece of advice?' it is a mere formality. It doesn'... ERMA BOMBECK When you're at your absolute, most exhausted... That's when you have to be at the top of you... BILL HADER I mean, if somebody said to me, junior year of college, you can go anywhere, your old man's payi... CHRIS MATTHEWS In 'Laurence Anyways,' Nathalie Baye is Laurence's mother, and she is quite an awful mot... XAVIER DOLAN Alas, I think I am becoming a god. TITUS Some men by ancestry are only the shadow of a mighty name. LUCAN I have a wife, I have sons: all of them hostages given to fate. LUCAN I lost my mother when I was 7 and they put her in a mental hospital. My brother and I watched her be... QUINCY JONES I told my kids when they were little, 'Look, kids, your mother and I are screwing you up somehow... PAT CONROY When you're with your wife, you don't say I love you to your wife every day but the ways you... MICHEL HAZANAVICIUS My mother was a stay-at-home mom until I was about 11, when she got a job - and it was like a light ... ALLISON PEARSON My best friend and I go to bed at 11 o'clock. We have such old lady schedules. Everyone's al... BRITT ROBERTSON Not to be narcissistic, but I truly believe in order to make yourself better, you should see what yo... JAKE OWEN My mother is not a CIA agent, but she's an Italian mother, and she'd do anything for her son... ADRIANO GIANNINI It is mother's influence during the crucial formative years that forms a child's basic chara... EZRA TAFT BENSON Anyone can become a game show host. It simply requires a giant, narcissistic ego and an inability to... KURT BRAUNOHLER You know the passage where Scarlett voices her happiness that her mother is dead, so that she can... VIVIEN LEIGH I think it's important to remember that you go into something like marriage knowing that you don... JUSTIN TIMBERLAKE Your dresses should be tight enough to show you're a woman and loose enough to show you're a... EDITH HEAD That's what makes it so fun to be on a team. You're sitting at your house, thinking up this ... BILL WALTON Oh, my goodness, when you're a mother and you just give birth to a child with spina bifida and -... JONI EARECKSON TADA My mother taught public school, went to Harvard and then got her master's there and taught fifth... 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NICOLAS CAGE Anger does not solve problems - anger only makes things worse. I go by the old saying, 'Don'... LIONEL SOSA
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