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Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason.


Alfie Kohn

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ALFIE KOHN Establish a system of rewards and punishments
SUNDAY ADELAJA Rewards and punishments are the lowest form of education.
ZHUANGZI Rewards and punishments are the lowest form of education.
ZHUANG ZI Years of research in psychology has shown that rewards and punishments can be very effective in chan...
BARRY SCHWARTZ There are no rewards or punishments -- only consequences.
W. R. [WILLIAM RALPH] INGE There are no rewards or punishments - only consequences.
WILLIAM RALPH INGE There are no rewards or punishments -- only consequences.
DEAN INGE What it's like to be a parent: It's one of the hardest things you'll ever do but in exchange it teac...
NICHOLAS SPARKS I realize it's commonplace for parents to say to their child sternly, 'I love you, but I don't alway...
LIONEL SHRIVER I like to open for a band as it brings on sort of a challenge and it makes things more interesting. ...
KELLY JONES There are in nature neither rewards nor punishments — there are consequences.
ROBERT G. INGERSOLL In nature there are neither rewards nor punishments; there are consequences.
ROBERT GREEN INGERSOLL There are in nature neither rewards nor punishments, there are consequences.
ROBERT INGERSOLL In nature there are neither rewards nor punishments. There are consequences.
ROBERT INGERSOLL In nature there are neither rewards or punishments - there are consequences.
There is not eternal damnation, the only rewards and punishments are right here in this world.
STANISłAW IGNACY WITKIEWICZ In nature there are neither rewards nor punishments; there are only consequences.
ROBERT G. INGERSOLL The essence of socialization is to make people dependent on social controls, to have them respond pr...
MIHALY CSIKSZENTMIHALYI The bizarre world of cards [is] a world of pure power politics where rewards and punishments [are] m...
ELY CULBERTSON The more you share unconditionally what others most need, the more you will receive what you most wa...
DRAGOS BRATASANU The past with its pleasures, its rewards, its foolishness, it punishments, is there for each of us f...
LILLIAN HELLMAN The past, with its pleasures, its rewards, its foolishness, its punishments, is there for each of us...
LILLIAN HELLMAN You have to give them unconditional love. They need to know that even if they screw up, you love the...
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ALFIE KOHN When we do things that are controlling, whether intentional or not, we are not going to get those lo...
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ALFIE KOHN Most parents want to know what they can do to make their children do as they're told,
ALFIE KOHN What can we surmise about the likelihood of someone's being caring and generous, loving and helpful,...
ALFIE KOHN When test scores go up, we should worry, because of how poor a measure they are of what matters, and...
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ALFIE KOHN You are my light in the darkness.
TINA CARREIRO Love is so unconditional; love liberates; love is the reason why I do what I do, and so I think it i...
BEBE WINANS The child is brought up to know its social duties by means of a system of love-rewards and punishmen...
SIGMUND FREUD For me, dear reader, that place was purgatory incarnate; neither good nor bad, but a gateway to grea...
JOSS SHELDON "For unconditional love to remain unconditional,it's important not to try and add expectations. Unco...
TOM BAKER AKA THE PONDERING MAN I am a humanist, which means, in part, that I have tried to behave decently without expectations of ...
KURT VONNEGUT JR. Should one be shallow enough to view existence as a system of rewards and punishments, one soon lear...
TOM ROBBINS Alfie.
BURT BACHARACH May you bring unconditional love and infinite peace.
ALYSON NOEL The greatest gift a parent can give a child is unconditional love. As a child wanders and strays, fi...
GEORGE HERBERT WALKER BUSH It was the Greenspan-Kohn monetary policy, and the dash is perfectly legitimate,
ROGER KUBARYCH It was the Greenspan-Kohn monetary policy, and the dash is perfectly legitimate.
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GWENDOLINE CHRISTIE You know I blamed Craig for not letting me do things? You know how stupid I feel about that now? May...
STEPHEN CHBOSKY Feel within, the pure and unconditional Love and embrace all.
GRIGORIS DEOUDIS Give love and unconditional acceptance to those you encounter, and notice what happens.
WAYNE DYER True love is always unconditional. Healthy, loving relationships are never unconditional
HAROLD J. DUARTE-BERNHARDT True love is always unconditional. Healthy, loving relationships are never unconditional.
HAROLD J. DUARTE-BERNHARDT ...Both Elizabeth [Smart] and Ruby [Jessop] were fourteen when they were kidnapped, raped and "kept ...
JON KRAKAUER Ha! Kids! You have no idea what you put your parents through, either. Wait till you have your own, y...
TESS GERRITSEN Admitting weakness seems to be such a severe psychic threat for Bush that when he makes a mistake it...
TINA BROWN Love Should Be Unconditional And Limitless If Love Have Limits Then Its Fake
ARJUN RAI We have a dilemma, then,” Finnikin said fiercely. “Because I prayed that you would grow old and ...
MELINA MARCHETTA Love is supreme and unconditional; like is nice but limited.
DUKE ELLINGTON Love is supreme and unconditional; like is nice but limited
DUKE ELLINGTON Unconditional love takes a strong and deliberate evolution. Unconditional love is way beyond emotion...
CATHY BURNHAM MARTIN We are born knowing nothing and with much striving we learn but a little; yet all the while we are b...
PAUL ELMER MORE Football is unconditional love.
TOM BRADY There is freedom to found in the prayers of unconditional love and kindness.
DEBASISH MRIDHA The 'M*A*S*H' cast loves each other with unconditional love; our domestic animals love us wi...
GARY BURGHOFF Unconditional love is hard to compete with.
ABBI GLINES I love to shop vintage clothes; in London, I usually go to Relic and Alfie's Market. I usually b...
GEORGIA MAY JAGGER Unconditional Love, the connection between different and alike souls through time
JEFFREY LEE GIBSON JR. Unconditional love of self isnt forced...its felt and flows naturally
GAIL MARIE MACLEAN My mum and I have an incredible friendship now after a mixture of pain, honesty, unconditional love ...
P!NK Love and respect are the most important aspects of parenting, and of all relationships
JODIE FOSTER I want people to know my truth. Unconditional love of God and each other.
ANDRA DAY I believe in unconditional love and equality. Jesus Christ exemplified these qualities.
JACK CANFIELD Real Love is unconditional. Anything else is conditional and that’s not unconditonal.
KAORU SHINMON I have a dream, not of Tolerance, but of LOVE. Unconditional LOVE for everyone and everything.
GREG CLARK Isn't unconditional love supposed to work both ways? How can we expect unconditional love for oursel...
CHRISTINA ENGELA Unconditional love, is love, regardless anything; attainable or impossible.
ANTHONY LICCIONE "Unconditional Love Is The Bridge To Happiness." ~ Tom Baker
TOM BAKER AKA THE PONDERING MAN I think in a lot of ways unconditional love is a myth. My mom's the only reason I know it's ...
CONOR OBERST Unconditional love is an illogical notion, but such a great and powerful one.
A.J. JACOBS "The Cornerstones of Unconditional Love are: Patience, Kindness, Understanding, and Forgiveness." ~ ...
TOM BAKER AKA THE PONDERING MAN True love is unconditional, eternal and does not have the fear of losing.
BHAWANA JAIN In parenting patience is the greatest virtue.
ABHIJIT NASKAR Family is your most reliable source of support in any situation because love from your family is unc...
OSCAR AULIQ-ICE Family is your most reliable source of support in any situation because love from your family is unc...
AULIQ ICE Let your child be the torch of truth and they shall shine over the entirety of the human society bri...
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ABHIJIT NASKAR Human making is our mission, but if you break the very soul of the would-be humans, then there will ...
ABHIJIT NASKAR Human making is our mission.
ABHIJIT NASKAR Feed your child ideas of peace, harmony and compassion but at the same time give them courage to def...
ABHIJIT NASKAR Do not raise creepy crawlers my dear braveheart parents. Raise mighty humans with Himalayan strength...
ABHIJIT NASKAR Families help us learn what unconditional love is
BRENT M. JONES "In the archway of love and acceptance, unconditional love is the keystone where hearts and souls ar...
TOM BAKER AKA THE PONDERING MAN I know what it is like to be brought up with unconditional love. In my life that came from my grandm...
ANDRE LEON TALLEY She always believed love was good and hate was much better. But, indifference would’ve made her a ...
A.A. GUPTE No Condition Is Applied For Unconditional Love
DAMINI GUJARAN 'Unconditional love' is like saying 'wet water'.
STEVE RAY COLLINS The price of happiness is unconditional love.
DEBASISH MRIDHA So I entered parenting with only 3 clear goals: to love, to cherish, and to listen." - Melissa Ridge...
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