To have a dutiful family, the father's principle of rule must be love, not fear. His sway must be gentle, or he will have only an unwilling and short-lived obedience.

They seek for rule, supremacy, and sway, When they are bound to serve, love, and obey

Love and fear. Everything the father of a family says must inspire one or the other.

Fear is a strange soil. It grows obedience like corn, which grow in straight lines to make weeding easier. But sometimes it grows the potatoes of defiance, which flourish underground.

He gave me a day of bliss... and that's all.

Wicked men obey for fear, but the good for love.