The problem is the victim mentality, the flip- and often-overlooked side of bullying. Most bullying programs unwittingly encourage this victim mentality.
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Related A man with a victim mentality feels like being a victim who is complaining and crying all the time SUNDAY ADELAJA The main problem of a person with victim mentality is that he is incapable of thinking over his life... SUNDAY ADELAJA The problem that we have with a victim mentality is that we forget to see the blessings of the day. ... STEVE MARABOLI Victims declare,“The world is responsible for me,” and never do anything to better their quality... HENRY CLOUD Everyone in America likely has a bullying story, whether as the victim, bully or as a witness. MICHAEL M. HONDA Where I had felt a victim, I had become a determiner by recognizing I had choices. When considering ... ORIAH MOUNTAIN DREAMER I like to open for a band as it brings on sort of a challenge and it makes things more interesting. ... KELLY JONES Are you a victim of your failures? Don't be! Study them, be curious about them, and turn them into l... 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THOMAS The thing that most people didn't understand...was that a rape victim and a victim of a fatal accide... JODI PICOULT With cyber bullying, you can't escape from it. Fifty-four percent of the kids who were bullied said ... ROBIN KOWALSKI You relinquish your power when you blame others for situations in your life. The blame does not chan... NANETTE MATHEWS You can't have a wrong mentality about life and expect that you will see the bright side of life. BAMIGBOYE OLUROTIMI There was simply this bullying, reduction of 25 percent, which most of us in the community was malic... ERIC MURRAY Beatbullying's 'The Big March 2012' is such a brilliant campaign and I am very proud to ... KATHERINE JENKINS The victim who is able to articulate the situation of the victim has ceased to be a victim: he or sh... JAMES BALDWIN I think the best solution to this challenge, and I accept there is a challenge with homophobic bully... GEORGE OSBORNE That's it really; it's all love, whichever way you look at it, it's all love. How much you can Get f... GEORGE HARRISON The rule of law has become victim, and the people who are experiencing it the most are those communi... JANET NAPOLITANO The rich have long-term mentality, but the poor have short-term mentality. DAVID ATTA (A.K.A DAVIED ATTLARS & MR DAIN) There is always an underlying reason why the student is bullying someone. ANGIE JACQUES For any victim, particularly us Americans, it is difficult to see ourselves through the eyes of our ... MIROSLAV VOLF There's a difference between playing it cool and being a jerk. AULIQ ICE There's a difference between playing it cool and being a jerk. OSCAR AULIQ-ICE The best teacher is one in whose presence there is never a case of ragging and bullying. APURVA GAGLANI Mentality is the key,once our mentality goes wrong every other thing becomes wrong in our lives. DAVID ATTA (A.K.A DAVIED ATTLARS & MR DAIN) All the lies, all the ways we have of trying to make life simple for ourselves by putting people int... JULIA GREGSON Bullying builds character like nuclear waste creates superheroes. It's a rare occurrence and often d... ZACK W. VAN Natural playgrounds may decrease bullying. RICHARD LOUV People who are short, they're often portrayed as the victim. WARWICK DAVIS For me, growing up and going to school and not seeing any anti-bullying posters and not hearing peop... SHANE KOYCZAN So many cameras are on me. This press conference is going to be on every news channel and posted on ... CLARA KENSIE Once victim, always victim -- that's the law! THOMAS HARDY I am deeply aware of the pain caused to any victim of child abuse, especially at the hands of a trus... DAVID HOPE Most people function with deep-set contradictions in their mind. This mentality ruins relationships. AVIJEET DAS Your complaints, your drama, your victim mentality, your whining, your blaming, and all of your excu... STEVE MARABOLI True courage is cool and calm. The bravest of men have the least of a brutal, bullying insolence, an... LORD SHAFTESBURY A victim is someone who buys in to the one who plays the victim. JOHN LEACH The more kids are aware of what bullying is, the better. Simple teasing can really take a toll on a ... CARL SOUSA Middle school is like Lord of Flies. Bullying is not just picking on each other -- good friends can ... KATHLEEN BREHONY PH We're pleased to put this behind us. This has been two years of turmoil and bullying by this union. CASSANDRA PHELPS There is bullying going on, and we need to address it. LARRY WOLFE I was a redhead and a middle child; both can make you feel excluded. It's like fighting to be in... SHIRLEY MANSON This gives you an idea of the mentality going on inside this bank. 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