The gain is not the having of children; it is the discovery of love and how to be loving.

Parenthood always comes as a shock. Postpartum blues? Postpartum panic is more like it. We set out to have a baby; what we get is a total take-over of our lives.

A sense of worthiness is a child's most important need.

What if children grew up with parents who modeled a loving relationship, who openly showed each other affection and respect, expressing feelings authentically, and who lovingly, even playfully, turned conflicts toward solutions? What if we grew up feeling embraced, loved, seen and valued for the whole of who we are? Would it all turn out differently? You bet it would!

Just because the males can’t do an exhibition of their love towards the kids like the females, doesn’t mean that a man can’t have affection better than a woman towards the children.

And what could my father possibly want with another child, when he hardly bothered to talk to the one he already had?