The earlier you ask, the earlier you can enlist them for their help.

[Without the help of community leaders and residents,] we can't help Point Breeze Avenue, ... We can't get the funding. We can't make it work. We need to bring the avenue alive again.

We need to help get them stable. Mentally, they have been through a lot, a lot of stuff. We've got to keep giving them hope so they can go on, so they can refocus.

Any extra help they need can and should be provided by those other sources.

A couple should definitely sit down and talk to one another about their dream trip and kind of figure out where their priorities lie,

You can write your spouse a letter saying those things.