One of the major mistakes people make is that they think manners are only the expression of happy ideas. There’s a whole range of behavior that can be expressed in a mannerly way. That’s what civilization is all about — doing it in a mannerly and not an antagonistic way. One of the places we went wrong was the naturalistic, Rousseauean movement of the Sixties in which people said, â€Why can’t you just say what’s on your mind?†In civilization there have to be some restraints. If we followed every impulse, we’d be killing one another.
— Judith Martin
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