In order for us to practice self-control, we must have a goal. We must have something we are saying “yes†to, which necessarily comes with things that we must say “no†to. We use self-control to maneuver ourselves toward this “yes.†This goal must be entirely our own. The minute another person is choosing and managing our goals for us, we have left self-control behind.
— Danny Silk
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