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Pick up any newspaper or magazine, open the TV, and you'll be bombarded with suggestions of how ...
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Atheism is having a heyday in the born-again United States.
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What bothers me is that there is so much emphasis on food, rather than gathering and meeting - so th...
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Though it may feel otherwise, enjoying life is no more dangerous than apprehending it with continuou...
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One rarely falls in love without being as much attracted to what is interestingly wrong with someone...
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We read the weird tales in newspapers to crowd out the even weirder stuff inside us.
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There's a whole category of people who miss out by not allowing themselves to be weird enough.
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Intimacy is the capacity to be rather weird with someone - and finding that that's ok with them.
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The more familiar two people become, the more the language they speak together departs from that of ...
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...if the beginnings of love and amorous politics are equally rosy, then the ends may be equally blo...
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In the works of Lucretius, we find two reasons why we shouldn
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The longing for a destiny is no nowhere stronger than in our romantic life. All too often forced to ...
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He did not mean to depress us, rather to free us from expectations which inspire bitterness. It is c...
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At the top of the slope on the perimeter of the site, overlooking six lanes of motorway, is a diner ...
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I was an incredibly lonely, very alienated teenager.
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I am not a foodie, thank goodness. I will eat pretty much anything. A lot of my friends are getting ...
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There is militaristic-hegemonic-plutocratic side of the U.S. which is getting out of hand and threat...
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It's almost a blessing when we meet people who naturally want to do the sort of things that are ...
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It's very hard to respect people on holiday - everybody looks so silly at the beach, it makes yo...
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Small issues are really just large ones that haven't been accorded the requisite attention.
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Fantasies can be great, but we shouldn't make the wedding a fantasy, because the wedding is the ...
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Most of the time, we make discoveries about how difficult people are at the moment when the difficul...
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The thing is that love gives us a ringside seat on somebody else's flaws, so of course you'r...
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I'm one of those introverted people who simply feels a lot better after spending time alone thin...
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My dad was a slightly stricter version of Richard Dawkins. The worldview was that there are idiots o...
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Laughter is an important part of a good relationship. It's an immense achievement when you can m...
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The materialistic view of happiness of our age starkly revealed in our understanding of the word "lu...
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We tend to think of philosophies as produced by professional philosophers. Traditionally, this has m...
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The romantic person instinctively sees marriage in terms of emotions, but what a couple actually get...
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Not being understood may be taken as a sign that there is much in one to understand.
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What makes people good communicators is, in essence, an ability not to be fazed by the more problema...
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A world where a majority had imbibed the lessons implicit within tragic art would be one in which th...
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Parents don't reveal how often they have bitten their tongue, fought back the tears, or been too...
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We each appear to hold within ourselves a range of divergent views as to our native qualities.. And ...
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The humanities have been forced to disguise, both from themselves and their students, why their subj...
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I assemble my ideas in pieces on a computer file, then gradually find a place for them on a piece of...
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Sometimes my biography is interpreted as the upbringing of a French aristocrat. It was very, very di...
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Cynics are - beneath it all - only idealists with awkwardly high standards.
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The more people you have to ask for permission, the more dangerous a project gets.
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What annoys me about most self-help books is that they have no tragic sense. They have no sense that...
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The arrogance that says analysing the relationship between reasons and causes is more important than...
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I passionately believe that's it's not just what you say that counts, it's also how you ...
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Forgiveness requires a sense that bad behaviour is a sign of suffering rather than malice.
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The start receives such disproportionate attention because it isn't deemed to be just one phase amon...
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Feeling lost, crazy and desperate belongs to a good life as much as optimism, certainty and reason.
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If you are pro love, you have to be a little bit disloyal to the romantic feelings that propel you i...
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The number one person who needs my books is me. I'm not some sort of disinterested guru who has ...
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Parents become very good at not hearing the explicit words and listening instead to what the child m...
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Secular thinkers have a separation between thinking and doing. They don't have a grasp of the ba...
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The pleasure we derive from journeys is perhaps dependent more on the mindset with which we travel t...
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I waste most of the day, then finally start to write around 3 P.M., totally disgusted with myself fo...
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We have to put aside the customary historical reading of works of art in order to invite art to resp...
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I remember going to university, and the people who'd left home for the first time looked at the ...
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The moment we cry in a film is not when things are sad but when they turn out to be more beautiful t...
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Everyone's more vulnerable than they seem, and I think men are more vulnerable. Once you get clo...
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At 'The School of Life', we take seriously anything that has to do with human fulfilment - a...
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A city like London is sociable in a sense that there are people gathering in bars and restaurants, c...
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I was foreign and Jewish, with a funny name, and was very small and hated sport, a real problem at a...
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As for despair, it comes about when I have been a fool and hate myself and despair of my personality...
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Therapy and counseling can do wonderful things for people. But they have emerged so far as what are ...
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The idea that one might use art for 'instrumental' reasons tends to set off alarm bells at t...
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We are never through with the requirement for acceptance. This isn't a curse limited to the inadequa...
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Status anxiety definitely exists at a political level. Many Iraqis were annoyed with the US essentia...
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I passionately believe that's it's not just what you say that counts, it's also how you say it - tha...
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I am in general a very pessimistic person with an optimistic, day-to-day take on things. The bare fa...
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We are certainly influenced by role models, and if we are surrounded by images of beautiful rich peo...
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The Arab-Israeli conflict is also in many ways a conflict about status: it's a war between two p...
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Getting to the top has an unfortunate tendency to persuade people that the system is OK after all.
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Katie Price is no exception. She, too, is - in a distinctive way - a philosopher. Partially, Katie P...
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Used to do a lot of falling in love with people, almost in the street, and imagining that there woul...
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Le Corbusier is an outstanding writer. His ideas achieved their impact in large measure because he c...
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Since the beginning of the 20th century, the public's relationship to art has been weakened by a...
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There's a certain kind of insular, old-fashioned, upper-class Britishness that gives me the spoo...
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After Carol had left, as Symons threw away a pile of used tissues and rearranged the cushions on the...
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I am conscious of trying to stretch the boundaries of non-fiction writing. It's always surprised...
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I've had my successes and failures. I know many academics in my field loathe me. I've come t...
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For thousands of years, it had been nature--and its supposed creator--that had had a monopoly on awe...
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Everyone returns us to a different sense of ourselves, for we become a little of who they think we a...
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Perhaps the easiest people to fall in love with are those about whom
we know nothing. Romances...
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A person cannot be at once a libertine and a married Romantic, however compelling both paradigms mig...
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We owe it to the fields that our houses will not be the inferiors of the virgin land they have repla...
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What we typically call love is only the start of love. Our understanding of love has been hijacked a...
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On account of its scale and complexity, the world will always outstrip the capacity of any single bo...
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Kant and Hegel are interesting thinkers. But I am happy to insist that they are also terrible writer...
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Emotional life is - alongside work - one of the great challenges of existence and is a theme that I ...
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The most attractive are not those who allow us to kiss them at once (we soon feel ungrateful) or tho...
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Booksellers are the most valuable destination for the lonely, given the numbers of books that were w...
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There are few more effective ways to promote tolerance between suspicious neighbours than to force t...
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There's a constant tension between the excitement of new people and security with one person. If...
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We are all more intelligent than we are capable, and awareness of the insanity of love has never sav...
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There is no one more likely to destroy us than the person we marry.
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The challenge lies in knowing how to bring this sort of day to a close. His mind has been wound to a...
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Many people in the intellectual elite are very scared of shouting. They insist on very quiet murmurs...
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as the determinants of high status keep shifting, so, too, naturally, will the triggers of status an...
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Far from rejecting outright any hierarchy of success or failure, philosophy instead reconfigures the...
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It is according to how we are able to answer the question of what we do (normally the first enquiry ...
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Philosophy, art, politics, religion and bohemia have never sought to do away entirely with the statu...
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People who hold important positions in society are commonly labelled "somebodies," and their inverse...
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The desire for high status is never stronger than in situations where "ordinary" life fails to answe...
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There is a danger of developing a blanket distaste for modern life which could have its attractions ...
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Anyone who isn't embarrassed of who they were last year probably isn't learning enough.
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Most of what makes a book 'good' is that we are reading it at the right moment for us.
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A 'good job' can be both practically attractive while still not good enough to devote your entire li...
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There is no such thing as work-life balance. Everything worth fighting for unbalances your life.
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When does a job feel meaningful? Whenever it allows us to generate delight or reduce suffering in ot...
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One's doing well if age improves even slightly one's capacity to hold on to that vital truism: "This...
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A good half of the art of living is resilience.
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...workplace dynamics are no less complicated or unexpectedly intense than family relations, with on...
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We are humiliated by what is powerful and mean, but awed by what is powerful and noble.
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Literature has always had its circus side, its freaks and its frivolities - and maybe that's all par...
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I love the idea of a university as away from capitalist values, where people can do things that don&...
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What makes the prospect of death distinctive in the modern age is the background of permanent techno...
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It seems, in fact, that the more advanced a society is, the greater will be its interest in ruined t...
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It is one of the unexpected disasters of the modern age that our new unparalleled access to informat...
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In a secularising world, art has replaced religion as a touchstone of our reverence and devotion.
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Blind impatience is equally evident in the fruit section. Our ancestors might have delighted in the ...
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Bitterness: anger that forgot where it came from.
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Only as we mature does affection begin to depend on achievement.
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Don't despair: despair suggests you are in total control and know what is coming. You don't - surren...
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We are continuously challenged to discover new works of culture—and, in the process, we don’t al...
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We may seek a fortune for no greater reason than to secure the respect and attention of people who w...
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In Britain, because I live here, I can also run into problems of envy and competition. But all this ...
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Snobbery exists in all areas of life, not least literary criticism. By snobbery I mean, any method o...
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Pick up any newspaper or magazine, open the TV, and you'll be bombarded with suggestions of how to h...
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It is the most ambitious and driven among us who are the most sorely in need of having our reckless ...
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I've tried to write about Heathrow before and been escorted off the premises.
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Because I have this thing about birthdays--they always remind me of death and forced jollity.
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He was a volatile mixture of confidence and vulnerability. He could deliver extended monologues on p...
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The feeling one has no time to get anything done provides the pressure that guarantees one does get ...
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I'm fascinated by Comte's clear-eyed analysis of what was wrong with modern society, which i...
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The largest part of what we call 'personality' is determined by how we've opted to defend ourselves ...
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It is in dialogue with pain that many beautiful things acquire their value. Acquaintance with grief ...
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The most courageous act in politics is to try to understand your opponent.
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The idea of a book that can make a change to your life, that can affect your perspective, is a beaut...
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The philosophy I love is very selective. It is really just the bit that is involved in a search for ...
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It is hope--with regard to our careers, our love lives, our children, our politicians, and our plane...
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I learnt to stop fantasising about the perfect job or the perfect relationship because that can actu...
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He was marked out by his relentless ability to find fault with others' mediocrity--suggesting that a...
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There are books that speak to us of our own lives with a clarity we cannot match. They prevent the m...
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On paper, being good sounds great but a lot depends on the atmosphere of the workplace or community ...
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Travel is a lot like love.
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What is fascinating about marriage is why anyone wants to get married.
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I feel that the great challenge of our time is the communication of ideas.
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Learning to give up on perfection may be just about the most romantic move any of us could make.
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Work is a way of bringing order to chaos, and there's a basic satisfaction in seeing that we are...
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I like working with people. I believe change can only come through collaboration.
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I see religion as a storehouse of lots of really good ideas that a secular world should look at, rai...
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Rather than getting more spoilt with age, as difficulties pile up, epiphanies of gratitude abound.
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For the rest of history, for most of us, our bright promise will always fall short of being actualis...
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In 'Art as Therapy', we argue that art is a tool that can variously help to inspire, console...
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I was a very un-literary child, which might reassure parents with kids who don't read.
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In our more arrogant moments, the sin of pride—or superbia, in Augustine's Latin formulation—tak...
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Partially undermining the manufacturer's ability to assert that its work constituted a meaningful co...
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Pegging your contentment to the overall state of the world rather than of your own life: the basis o...
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The solution as consumers is - perhaps surprisingly - to take adverts very, very seriously. We shoul...
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We don't need to be constantly reasonable in order to have good relationships; all we need to have m...
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To look at the paper is to raise a seashell to one's ear and to be overwhelmed by the roar of humani...
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I think of myself as quite a shy person. But when I'm curious about something, I'll go quite...
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Artworks are especially good at helping our psyches in a variety of ways: they rebalance our moods, ...
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[T]he unsympathetic assessments we make of others are usually the result of nothing more sinister th...
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It is not only the hostility of others that may prevent us from questioning the status quo. Our will...
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The most boring and unproductive question one can ask of any religion is whether or not it is true.
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Whatever modern democracies may tell themselves about their commitment to free speech and to diversi...
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The true nature of bureaucracy may be nowhere more obvious to the observer than in a developing coun...
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To be loved by someone is to realize how much they share the same needs that lie at the heart of our...
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We fall in love because we long to escape from ourselves with someone as beautiful, intelligent, and...
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Being content is perhaps no less easy than playing the violin well: and requires no less practice.
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A storyteller who provided us with such a profusion of details would rapidly grow maddening. Unfortu...
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We used to build temples, and museums are about as close as secular society dares to go in facing up...
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The Anxiety of Sunday afternoon: your unlived lives and infinite possibility pressing upon the const...
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Blessed with riches and possibilities far beyond anything imagined by ancestors who tilled the unpre...
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We need a home in the psychological sense as much as we need one in the physical: to compensate for ...
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Even if our loved ones have assured us that they will be busy at work, even if they told us they hat...
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You normally have to be bashed about a bit by life to see the point of daffodils, sunsets and uneven...
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What a peculiar civilisation this was: inordinately rich, yet inclined to accrue its wealth through ...
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Despite the best efforts of critics and the hopes of authors, our tastes in books are probably as in...
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We would like to go and see the field that Millet…shows us in his Springtime, we would like Claude...
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Our feelings of anxiety are genuine but confused signals that something is amiss, and so need to be ...
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Paying tax should be framed as a glorious civic duty worthy of gratitude - not a punishment for maki...
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It was no longer her absence that wounded me, but my growing indifference to it. Forgetting, however...
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Perhaps it is true that we do not really exist until there is someone there to see us existing, we c...
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Every fall into love involves the triumph of hope over self-knowledge. We fall in love hoping we won...
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Nature puts us all in our places. Being made to feel small isn't something we welcome when it's done...
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in Flaubert’s eyes, that only entirely illiterate and uneducated Frenchmen now stood a chance of b...
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A clean conscience is the preserve of those without sufficient imagination.
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In the past, Flaubert implied, idiots had had no clue as to what the carbon structure of diamonds wa...
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Never too late to learn some embarrassingly basic, stupidly obvious things about oneself.
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But we would do well to meditate daily, rather as the religious do on their God, on the 9.5 trillion...
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To a shameful extent, the charm of marriage boils down to how unpleasant it is to be alone. This isn...
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One of the best protections against disappointment is to have a lot going on.
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What kills us isn't one big thing, but thousands of tiny obligations we can't turn down for fear of ...
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Booksellers are the most valuable destination for the lonely, given the numbers of books written bec...
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It is precisely when we hear little from our partner which frightens, shocks, or sickens us that we ...
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Unrequited love may be painful, but it is safely painful, because it does not involve inflicting dam...
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It's clear to me that there is no good reason for many philosophy books to sound as complicated as t...
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Jarenlang kwam ik bij het boodschappen doen langs een huis dat weliswaar een van de lelijkste gebouw...
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Snobbery exists in all areas of life, not least literary criticism. By snobbery I mean, any method o...
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Kant and Hegel are interesting thinkers. But I am happy to insist that they are also terrible writer...
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I passionately believe that's it's not just what you say that counts, it's also how you say it - tha...
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I am in general a very pessimistic person with an optimistic, day-to-day take on things. The bare fa...
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Sweetness is the opposite of machismo, which is everywhere - and I really don't get on with machismo. I'm interested in sensitivity and weakness and fear and anxiety because I think that, at the end of the day, behind our masks, that's what we are.

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Alain de Botton

Sweetness is the opposite of machismo, which is everywhere - and I really don't get on with machismo. I'm interested in sensitivity and weakness and fear and anxiety because I think that, at the end of the day, behind our masks, that's what we are.

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