Saiyam parinaam (a resultant state that is free of anger-pride-deceit-greed, attachment and abhorrence) means a state where both, Atma parinaam (the result of the Selfl) and pudgal parinaam (the result of the non-Self) remain separate exactly as they should.

What is saiyam parinaam? It is when the Self (Atma) does not become one in with the non-Self (pudgal); It continues to prevail separately. If the Self is allowed to become one [with the non-Self], then that becomes a violent intent (himsak bhaav).

In worldly life, no one will become our very own. It is only our Soul that is our very own. Where everything is relative, what is there (to expect)?

Where indeed is the happiness in this worldly life? These are illusory beliefs. That is why ‘we’ openly say that, “The happiness that you seek cannot be found in ‘this’ (worldly life). Happiness is in the Self (Atma).” ‘We’ have tasted that happiness, ‘we’ have experienced it. That is why ‘we’ tell everyone, “Come on ‘this side’ (of the Self), there is no happiness on the ‘other side’ (in worldly life)!

What is the inherent nature of the relative self (pratisthit atma) like? It mimics what it sees, it does not have to be taught anything. Therefore, association should be with a truly (enlightened) person, a spiritually elevated person. And if there is association with bad people, then evil thoughts will arise.

However many attributes that you can see of yourself at the moment, they are not yours, they are false attributions, they are 'cultured' (developed). 'Your' properties (guna) are of a completely different kind. You have not seen them, you have not known them; You do not Know even a single property.