Refuse to blame yourself for not being 'good enough

Continuing to play the victim is a self-fulfilling prophecy. Blaming others for your station in life will indeed make you a victim but the perpetrator will be your own self, not life or those around you.

The undisciplined mind confuses misfortune with mistakes.

I create my own heartbreaks!

It is a strange thing we do, blaming ourselves when people hurt us, but we all do it.

A man can fail many times, but he isn't a failure until he begins to blame somebody else.