People ask what the secret of a happy marriage is. If there is one, it's 'don't talk about it.'

The secret of a happy marriage remains a secret.

The secret of a happy marriage is finding the right person. You know they're right if you love to be with them all the time.

Some people ask the secret of our long marriage. We take time to go to a restaurant two times a week. A little candlelight, dinner, soft music and dancing. She goes Tuesdays, I go Fridays.

In that conversation with Richard, Kris did precisely what she'd done before offering her tennis quitting advice from years before. She paid attention. Instead of getting swept up in a reaction--regardless of how legitimate it would have been--she unseated herself and chose to focus on what Richard was saying. That kind of awareness is rare. It's rare in a person and even more so with a couple.

If you can figure out how to choose happiness in your marriage daily, and stop sweating the small stuff, it'll take ten years off your life.