Only by acceptance of the past, can you alter it.

I lied," I said. ...
"I know it," he said.
"Then do something about it. Do anything, just so it's something."
"I cant," he said.
"There aint anything to do? Not anything?"
"I didn't say that," Grandfather said. "I said I couldn't. You can."
"What?" I said. "How can I forget it? Tell me how to."
"You cant," he said. "Nothing is ever forgotten. Nothing is ever lost. It's too valuable."
"Then what can I do?"
"Live with it," Grandfather said.
"Live with it? You mean, forever? For the rest of my life? Not ever to get rid of it? Never? I cant. Dont you see that I cant?"
"Yes you can," he said. "You will. A gentleman always does. A gentleman can live through anything. He faces anything. A gentleman accepts the responsibility of his actions and bears the burden of their consequences, even when he did not himself instigate them but only acquiesced to them, didn't say No though he knew he should.

The historical sense involves a perception, not only of the pastness of the past, but of its presence

...knew the futility of agonizing over why things had transpired as they had. What could have happened, did.

You can't judge the present by the past. Each day is different, and you live it differently.

I pity the people who hated the opposite sex, I've no idea what they done to them but I still won't accept it. Those who chose to hate the opposite sex rather then as an human being are blinded fools, all of them. Nobody can help it when they're only human beings in the first place.