Most importantly, we want Toby to know that we are her family. We love her, we miss you and we want you to come home safely.

As a family, we have discussed these matters and simply don't have any idea why or how this happened. We simply, simply don't have any answers.

These events have been both devastating and emotionally disturbing ... As a family we've discussed these matters, and we just simply don't have any idea why or how this happened. We simply don't have any answers. But most importantly, we want Toby to know that we're her family, we love her, we miss you, we want you to come home safely. So Toby, if you hear this, please, please come home.

It is very painful to think that John has no idea his family is sending him love and support during the most difficult time of his life,

The love of a family is life's greatest blessing

She knows Daddy better than I do. I think it's because she's felt since we were children that our Daddy maybe loved me more than he loves her. This isn't true, and she knows that now--people love different people in different ways--but it must have seemed that way to her when we were little. I look as though I just can't make it, she looks like can't nothing stop her. If you look helpless, people react to you in one way and if you look strong, or just come on strong, people react to you in another way, and, since you don't see what they see, this can be very painful. I think that's why Sis was always in front of that damn mirror all the time, when we were kids. She was saying, 'I don't care. I got me.' Of course, this only made her come on stronger than ever, which was the last effect she desired: but that's the way we are and that's how we can sometimes get so fucked up. Anyway, she's past all that. She knows who she is, or, at least, she knows who she damn well isn't.