Until the legacy of remembered and reenacted trauma is taken seriously, black America cannot heal.
BELL HOOKS Many spiritual teachers - in Buddhism, in Islam - have talked about first-hand experience of the wor...
BELL HOOKS The feminist call was for women to embrace ways of seeing beauty and adorning ourselves that are hea...
BELL HOOKS Significantly, romantic friendships can coexist with the fact of partners' marrying because their re...
BELL HOOKS I think the truth is that finding ourselves brings more excitement and well-being than anything roma...
BELL HOOKS The practice of love offers no place of safety. We risk loss, hurt, pain. We risk being acted upon b...
BELL HOOKS Giving generously in romantic relationships, and in all other bonds, means recognizing when the othe...
BELL HOOKS Usually adult males who are unable to make emotional connections with the women they choose to be in...
BELL HOOKS Knowing how to be solitary is central to the art of loving. When we can be alone, we can be with oth...
BELL HOOKS All too often women believe it is a sign of commitment, an expression of love, to endure unkindness ...
BELL HOOKS Life-transforming ideas have always come to me through books.
BELL HOOKS Why is it that many contemporary male thinkers, especially men of color, repudiate the imperialist l...
BELL HOOKS For me, forgiveness and compassion are always linked: how do we hold people accountable for wrongdoi...
BELL HOOKS When we drop fear, we can draw nearer to people, we can draw nearer to the earth, we can draw nearer...
BELL HOOKS A major part of love is commitment. If we are committed to someone, if I'm committed to loving y...
BELL HOOKS Since anti-racist individuals did not control mass media, the media became the primary tool that wou...
BELL HOOKS We judge on the basis of what somebody looks like, skin color, whether we think they're beautifu...
BELL HOOKS I have always been a flirt. My mother says whe I was a child, I used to stand outside the house and ...
BELL HOOKS I will not have my life narrowed down. I will not bow down to somebody else's whim or to someone...
BELL HOOKS It really fascinates me what white people are allowed to write about.
BELL HOOKS What had begun as a movement to free all black people from racist oppression became a movement with ...
BELL HOOKS I love my family, even as I critique their dysfunctionalities.
BELL HOOKS In this culture, the phrase 'black woman' is not synonymous with 'tender,' or 'g...
BELL HOOKS I have created a life style that supports contemplation, service to words.
BELL HOOKS Every terrorist regime in the world uses isolation to break people's spirits.
BELL HOOKS I don't think you can hate anything that you know intimately. There is no fine line separating l...
BELL HOOKS But love is really more of an interactive process. It's about what we do not just what we feel. ...
BELL HOOKS I think life experiences are different for people who know what they want as children.
BELL HOOKS Since loving is about knowing, we have more meaningful love relationships when we know each other an...
BELL HOOKS I have been thinking about the notion of perfect love as being without fear, and what that means for...
BELL HOOKS Any society based on domination supports and condones violence.
BELL HOOKS Once you do away with the idea of people as fixed, static entities, then you see that people can cha...
BELL HOOKS If we give our children sound self-love, they will be able to deal with whatever life puts before th...
BELL HOOKS The greatest movement for social justice our country has ever known is the civil rights movement and...
BELL HOOKS There is no life to be found in violence. Every act of violence brings us closer to death. Whether i...
BELL HOOKS Secrets find a way out in sleep . . . It is the place where there is no pretense.
BELL HOOKS I believe that this nation can only heal from the wounds of racism if we all begin to love blackness...
BELL HOOKS Usually, when people talk about the "strength" of black women . . . . they ignore the reality that t...
BELL HOOKS I will not have my life narrowed down. I will not bow down to somebody else's whim or to someone els...
BELL HOOKS I often find it easier to be teaching or giving to others, and often struggle with the place of my o...
BELL HOOKS I feel like there is always something trying to pull us back into sleep, that there is this sort of ...
BELL HOOKS . . .there is an element of Play that is almost ritualistic in Black folk life. It serves to mediate...
BELL HOOKS I feel enormously blessed to be a successful black woman writer in this culture, but I have found my...
BELL HOOKS I began writing a book on love because I felt that the United States is moving away from love.
BELL HOOKS The academy is not paradise. But learning is a place where paradise can be created.
BELL HOOKS Often men who have been emotionally neglected and abused as children by dominating mothers bond with...
BELL HOOKS An often-repeated assertion in the body of film criticism I have written is the assertion that movie...
BELL HOOKS All over the world, young males and females, schooled in the art of patriarchal thinking, are buildi...
BELL HOOKS Part of the racialized sexism wants everyone to think that a 15-year old Mexican is not a girl, she�...
BELL HOOKS Love is a combination of care, commitment, knowledge, responsibility, respect and trust.
BELL HOOKS But many of us seek community solely to escape the fear of being alone. Knowing how to be solitary i...
BELL HOOKS But artists aren’t the only marginalized folks controlling real estate. Think about the colonizing...
BELL HOOKS When we see love as the will to nurture one's own or another's spiritual growth, revealed through ac...
BELL HOOKS Beloved community is formed not by the eradication of difference but by its affirmation, by each of ...
BELL HOOKS I want there to be a place in the world where people can engage in one another’s differences in a ...
BELL HOOKS These days I wonder more and more why people are pessimistic when American history actually supports...
BELL HOOKS Genuine love is rarely an emotional space where needs are instantly gratified. To know love we have ...
BELL HOOKS While the patriarchal boys in hip-hop crew may talk about keeping it real, there has been no musical...
BELL HOOKS A generous heart is always open, always ready to receive our going and coming. In the midst of such ...
BELL HOOKS Even though some individual scholars try to tell us there is no direct connection between images of ...
BELL HOOKS I'm so disturbed when my women students behave as though they can only read women, or black stud...
BELL HOOKS Contrary to what we may have been taught to think, unnecessary and unchosen suffering wounds us but ...
BELL HOOKS The moment we choose to love we begin to move towards freedom...
BELL HOOKS To live fixated on the future is to engage in psychological denial. It is a form of psychic violence...
BELL HOOKS Some people act as though art that is for a mass audience is not good art, and I think this has been...
BELL HOOKS In general, the mass media tell us that black people are not loving, that our lives are so fraught w...
BELL HOOKS The political core of any movement for freedom in the society has to have the political imperative t...
BELL HOOKS Dominator culture teaches all of us that the core of our identity is defined by the will to dominate...
BELL HOOKS Being oppressed means the absence of choices.
BELL HOOKS the wounded child inside many males is a boy who, when he first spoke his truths, was silenced by pa...
BELL HOOKS I'm such a girl for the living room. I really like to stay in my nest and not move. I travel in ...
BELL HOOKS I think the Women's movement has had a major impact on everybody's lives in our nation and i...
BELL HOOKS The transformative power of love is not fully embraced in our society because we often wrongly belie...
BELL HOOKS To love well is the task in all meaningful relationships, not just romantic bonds.
BELL HOOKS One of the most subversive institutions in the United States is the public library..
BELL HOOKS Honesty and openness is always the foundation of insightful dialogue.
BELL HOOKS Being oppressed means the absence of choices
BELL HOOKS To build community requires vigilant awareness of the work we must continually do to undermine all t...
BELL HOOKS Whether they regard themselves as pro- or antifeminist, most women want men to do more of the emotio...
BELL HOOKS Fame is fun, money is useful, celebrity can be exciting, but finally life is about optimal well-bein...
BELL HOOKS Individuals who want to believe that there is no fulfillment in love, that true love does not exist,...
BELL HOOKS We fear that evaluating our needs and then carefully choosing partners will reveal that there is no ...
BELL HOOKS If you do not know what you feel, then it is difficult to choose love; it is better to fall. Then yo...
BELL HOOKS To return to love, to get the love we always wanted but never had, to have the love we want but are ...
BELL HOOKS Individual heterosexual women came to the movement from relationships where men were cruel, unkind, ...
BELL HOOKS As more people have found the courage to break through shame and speak about woundedness in their li...
BELL HOOKS Describing our romantic longings in 'Life preserves,' therapist Harriet Lerner shares that most peop...
BELL HOOKS I always tell my students that Malcolm X came both to his spirituality and to his consciousness as a...
BELL HOOKS I'm so disturbed when my women students behave as though they can only read women, or black students...
BELL HOOKS There must exist a paradigm, a practical model for social change that includes an understanding of w...
BELL HOOKS Most men and women born in the fifties or earlier were socialized to believe that marriages and/or c...
BELL HOOKS Feminism is the struggle to end sexist oppression. Therefore, it is necessarily a struggle to eradic...
BELL HOOKS In a culture which holds the two-parent patriarchal family in higher esteem than any other arrangeme...
BELL HOOKS All our silences in the face of racist assault are acts of complicity.
BELL HOOKS In the Mars-and-Venus-gendered universe, men want power and women want emotional attachment and conn...
BELL HOOKS One of the best guides to how to be self-loving is to give ourselves the love we are often dreaming ...
BELL HOOKS The best sex and the most satisfying sex are not the same. I have had great sex with men who were in...
BELL HOOKS Erotic attraction often serves as the catalyst for an intimate connection between two people, but it...
BELL HOOKS If one assumes, as I do, that battery is caused by the belief permeating this culture that hierarchi...
BELL HOOKS If you go door to door in our nation and talk to citizens about domestic violence, almost everyone w...
BELL HOOKS ..think about the contradictions and complexities that beset people.

BELL HOOKS When we understand love as the will to nurture our own and another's spiritual growth, it becomes cl...
BELL HOOKS Living simply makes loving simple.
BELL HOOKS When we black people commit ourselves to living simply as a political action, as a way of breaking t...
BELL HOOKS ..the struggle to end sexist oppression that focuses on destroying the cultural basis for such domin...
BELL HOOKS There will be no mass-based feminist movement as long as feminist ideas are understood only by a wel...
BELL HOOKS It is not surprising that young white males – most between thirty and forty – play major roles i...
BELL HOOKS Black males who refuse categorization are rare, for the price of visibility in the contemporary worl...
BELL HOOKS ...enslaved black males were socialized by white folks to believe that they should endeabor to becom...
BELL HOOKS Once upon a time black male “cool” was defined by the ways in which black men confronted hardshi...
BELL HOOKS As a black woman interested in feminist movement, I am often asked whether being black is more impor...
BELL HOOKS Much popular self-help literature normalizes sexism. Rather than linking habits of being, usually co...
BELL HOOKS All relationships have ups and downs. Romantic fantasy often nurtures the belief that difficulties a...
BELL HOOKS The institutionalization of Black Studies, Feminist Studies, all of these things, led to a sense tha...
BELL HOOKS When we face pain in relationships our first response is often to sever bonds rather than to maintai...
BELL HOOKS One of the greatest difficulties the left faces in reaching out to masses of people in America is it...
BELL HOOKS When angels speak of love they tell us it is only by loving that we enter an earthly paradise. They ...
BELL HOOKS Even in the face of powerful structures of domination, it remains possible for each of us, especiall...
BELL HOOKS Privilege is not in and of itself bad; what matters is what we do with privilege. I want to live in ...
BELL HOOKS I mostly want to remind her of the recipes of healing, and give her my own made-on-the spot remedy f...
BELL HOOKS It is important for this country to make its people so obsessed with their own liberal individualism...
BELL HOOKS Black progressives suffered major disillusionment with white progressives when our experiences of wo...
BELL HOOKS It seems to me that the binary opposition that is so much embedded in Western thought and language m...
BELL HOOKS No other group in America has so had their identity socialized out of existence as have black women....
BELL HOOKS My idea of a delicious time is to read a book that is wonderful. But the ruling passion of my life i...
BELL HOOKS She wanted me to remember that pleasure is political--for the capacity to relax and play renews the ...
BELL HOOKS No black woman writer in this culture can write ‘too much’. Indeed, no woman writer can write �...
BELL HOOKS How different things might be if, rather than saying "I think I'm in love," we were saying "I've con...
BELL HOOKS We have to constantly critique imperialist white supremacist patriarchal culture because it is norma...
BELL HOOKS Emotional neglect lays the groundwork for the emotional numbing that helps boys feel better about be...
BELL HOOKS Testimony in new age writing affirms the way in which embracing a love ethic transforms life for the...
BELL HOOKS Usually, fundamentalists, be they Christian, Muslim, or any faith, shape and interpret religious tho...
BELL HOOKS Individual members of certain churches in black communities should protest when worship services bec...
BELL HOOKS The process begins with the individual woman’s acceptance that American women, without exception, ...
BELL HOOKS Since men are not equals in white supremacist, capitalist, patriarchal class structure, which men do...
BELL HOOKS A good history covers not only what was done, but the thought that went into the action. You can rea...
BENJAMIN HOOKS We've come a long way, but it's like nibbling at the edge of darkness.
BENJAMIN HOOKS The most enduring contributions made to civilization have not been made by brawn, they have been mad...
BENJAMIN HOOKS Black men who have succeeded have an obligation to serve as role models for young men entrapped by a...
BENJAMIN HOOKS It was a great team effort for the Mustangs. You may get (defensive coordinator) Cornel (Thompson) i...
DAN HOOKS It's really sad - to have young lives taken. It's tragic.
PAULA HOOKS Bentley came in here the very first day and rode across the room, which is unheard of. It usually ta...
BRAD HOOKS I really don't have to teach too much. I teach them how to get on basically, just teaching them the ...
BRAD HOOKS To be behind to Nederland 10-0 and comeback was a great accomplishment. We fought back and toppled a...
DAN HOOKS I think our young linemen are getting better every week. We have a bunch of sophomores and juniors p...
DAN HOOKS Beasley is a great football player. He's intelligent and knows what it takes to win a football game....
DAN HOOKS We have 23 people. Our kids are playing both ways, so it's a battle of the numbers. We're working ha...
DAN HOOKS We want to do whatever we can to help.
DAN HOOKS It was a tremendous win for our kids and it's always a big deal around here when we beat Jasper. The...
DAN HOOKS Yet another week in a 'bulldog pen' for us. What a charming non-district schedule we have, huh. If o...
DAN HOOKS He's a great athlete. I thought his passes sputtered a little bit, but you know, overall he's a diff...
DAN HOOKS It's a really big thing for the players to be honored here tonight. There are no losers out of this....
DAN HOOKS Until you hit 667MHz or 800MHz you don't tend to end up getting a significant performance advantage ...
DOUG HOOKS Until you hit 667MHz or 800MHz, you don't tend to end up getting a significant performance advantage...
DOUG HOOKS Dual and single core (desktop processors) will both be out at the same time.
DOUG HOOKS Nederland is always such a sound and solid football team. Coach Neumann and his group do such a trem...
DAN HOOKS The point-spread, you know, I don't enjoy that, but I thought our kids played really well. In that l...
DAN HOOKS I'm very concerned about the role of one of our city councilman in this process. It's unprecedented ...
CHARLES HOOKS He needs to remember he's always wearing a City Council hat.
CHARLES HOOKS We've been blessed so that we can bless somebody else.
CHARLES HOOKS Black men who have succeeded have an obligation to serve as role models for young men entrapped by ...
BENJAMIN L. HOOKS A good history covers not only what was done, but the thought that went into the action. You can re...
BENJAMIN L. HOOKS The most enduring contributions made to civilization have not been made by brawn, they have been mad...
BENJAMIN L. HOOKS A good history covers not only what was done, but the thought that went into the action. You can rea...
BENJAMIN L. HOOKS We've come a long way, but it's like nibbling at the edge of darkness.
BENJAMIN L. HOOKS Black men who have succeeded have an obligation to serve as role models for young men entrapped by a...
BENJAMIN L. HOOKS Halloween is fun, but it wasn't always my favorite holiday. I think Thanksgiving is my favorite ...
TOBIN BELL If I read every comment on my YouTube videos, I'd go crazy with people that are saying negative ...
JOSHUA BELL Typically, a book takes me about a year to write.
TED BELL I like to sit down every day and not know where the book is going. I have no idea where the book is ...
TED BELL I live in Florida, and I live on a small lagoon. I sit and look out at the water all day - that'...
TED BELL I think it takes a lot of desire because I think a lot of people who've never written books don&...
TED BELL While marriage is historically associated with dire obligation and clipped wings, I've found tha...
LAKE BELL The only thing I liked about Christmas as a kid was the gifts; otherwise, it just seemed like a stre...
LAKE BELL I went to drama school in England, and you spend your first year working on the muscles surrounding ...
LAKE BELL I have a weird obsession with wearing not just fashion sneakers, but actual sneakers that have bounc...
LAKE BELL I feel very lucky that when I'm burnt out of acting, I take to the pen, and I write something I ...
LAKE BELL 'In A World...' changed my life a thousand per cent. I feel thankful that something I believ...
LAKE BELL I lean into all things that are a little off. I will always wear overalls. At this point, I find a w...
LAKE BELL When you have a little one, you realize that your only mission in life is to protect this helpless, ...
LAKE BELL There are a lot of funny people and a lot of unfunny people. Some of them are women and some of them...
LAKE BELL My mom is incredibly stylish, and she gets it from my grandmother. I feel like I can't live up t...
LAKE BELL There have been times where you do the red carpet in a certain shoe, and you go into the bathroom, y...
LAKE BELL 'Wet Hot American Summer' was sort of lowbrow genius, you know? But smart in its cultish sil...
LAKE BELL My dad's a Jew, and my mom's a WASP, so that should pretty much say it all. It was a comical...
LAKE BELL I love fashion. I always have. When I was a kid, I was in almost full-on costumes when I went to sch...
LAKE BELL You have to keep hobbies in L.A. Otherwise, it's sad.
LAKE BELL I like my body, I like to have fun with what I put on, but I also want to remain classic. So I guess...
LAKE BELL At the end of the week, my husband and I do a leftovers dinner, where we have to use whatever's ...
LAKE BELL I'm super and very openly obsessed with voice-over. 'In a World...' was my love letter t...
LAKE BELL I find the female tragedy of insecurity to be hilarious. We get obsessed over issues like the tiny s...
LAKE BELL I have this necklace I always wear. I collect pendants from people I love; my best friends and membe...
LAKE BELL Having children is not for everyone, but I think it's a beautiful lesson in it not being all abo...
LAKE BELL A lot of the people I'd love to work with, like John Lennon, Elvis Presley, Buddy Holly, aren...
DRAKE BELL I was raised on Elvis Presley and Buddy Holly and discovered the Stray Cats when I was 11 or 12 year...
DRAKE BELL You never know how they're going to play out, but 'Pork and Beans' definitely had the sa...
BRIAN BELL The impulse of the journalist is to be novel, yet to relate his curiosities to the urgencies of the ...
DANIEL BELL But in action, one defies one's character.
DANIEL BELL The intellectual takes as a starting point his self and relates the world to his own sensibilities; ...
DANIEL BELL Europe, in legend, has always been the home of subtle philosophical discussion; America was the land...
DANIEL BELL