If you have a family mission statement that clarifies what your purpose is, then you use that as the criterion by which you make the decisions.

A mission statement is not something you write overnight... But fundamentally, your mission statement becomes your constitution, the solid expression of your vision and values. It becomes the criterion by which you measure everything else in your life.

Juilliard's mission statement is learn about the classics so you can use that as a springboard to anything that comes your way.

I am not a product of my circumstances. I am a product of my decisions

You can't talk your way out of problems you behave yourself into.

Family home evening is more for the purpose of teaching values and gospel principles, displaying talents and enjoying different kinds of family fun and activities.