If you feel like the beginning of your history is rooted in slavery, that really, I think, messes with your sense of self, your self-esteem, and your self-worth.

If what you are is more important to you, than what you do, it is better to do nothing and have your sense of self+worth intact than do something and take a beating on your self+worth and self+esteem.

Most people think that once they lose the weight or make more money they will finally feel good about them themselves, but they are usually disappointed when they get there to find they don’t feel better. This happens because real self-worth can’t be earned. Real self-worth comes from understanding the truth about who you are and understanding that your value is infinite and absolute no matter what. This is the only way to peace.

Though the funny thing about never being asked for anything is that after a while you start to feel like maybe you don’t have anything worth giving.

As long as you look for someone else to validate who you are by seeking their approval, you are setting yourself up for disaster. You have to be whole and complete in yourself. No one can give you that. You have to know who you are - what others say is irrelevant.

I don't think I am narcissistic. I think I have low self-esteem.