I would suggest the widow do things the husband used to do, so he seems to be there with you. You will feel like just going to bed. It's so wonderful, going to bed.

I should say, one of the things about being a widow or a widower, you really, really need a sense of humor, because everything's going to fall apart.

Most people think that a widow is inhabiting some elegiac world of - it's like Mozart's 'Requiem Mass.' You know, it's very beautiful and elevated thoughts and some measure of dignity. I didn't have that experience at all. I had one pratfall after another.

It seems disingenuous to ask a writer why she, or he, is writing about a violent subject when the world and history are filled with violence.

To be knocked out doesn't mean what it seems. A boxer does not have to get up.

A good, sympathetic review is always a wonderful surprise.