He said he'd get her a scholarship, and all that dream-team stuff — everything a parent and child wants to hear.

When you're a parent you find yourself looking at the unknown that is your child, trying to find a piece of yourself inside her, because sometimes that is what it takes to claim.

Why isn't there a commandment to "honor thy children" or at least one to "not abuse thy children"? The notion that we must honor our parents causes many people to bury their real feelings and set aside their own needs in order to have a relationship with people they would otherwise not associate with. Parents, like anyone else, need to earn respect and honor, and honoring parents who are negative and abusive is not only impossible but extremely self-abusive. Perhaps, as with anything else, honoring our parents starts with honoring ourselves. For many adult children, honoring themselves means not having anything to do with one or both of their parents.

Find out what the other team wants to do. Then take it away from them.

I'm just disappointed that Illinois hasn't offered [a scholarship to] Patrick [Beverley]. He really, really wants to go there. This is a kid that was dying for the blue and orange.

If it's your child, it's different. You don't care about those things. It's so minor. You become a parent and nothing else really matters.