Don't fight your defects of character, but try to understand them. That way you'll be better able to reframe your thinking.

Better you discover your defects through self-examination rather than learn about them from others.

All my defects of character come from old ways of thinking.

I ask others for insights about me, because I have defects I can't see.

If I focus on my own defects, other's defects won't bother me.

Fixing personality defects is like removing weeds. It is not enough to get rid of what you see; you must work hard to dig down and remove the root to truly prevent the weeds from coming back.