Creepy is being attached to an outcome. If you approach someone with the goal of sex, and hten find thins not going in that direction, you may try to steer things back to sex. This is creepy.

Intercourse, ... I never had intercourse. I did not have a sexual relationship.

If you can find the time to discuss groceries and domestic tasks with your man, you can certainly find the time to talk about sexual role-play.

Cause shame was what we always felt, me and all my girlfriends, for expecting sex to breed complicity. ("Complicity is like a girl's name," writes Dodie Bellamy).

Forgiveness can be very hard, but not impossible....each victim/survivor in their own way and time can forgive, and the forgiveness is really more for the victim/survivor that it is for the abuser.

Sometimes someone wanting you is the biggest aphrodisiac there is. It fills a lot of holes.