That was the maids' and butlers' nights off.
RUBIN SALTER Your parents are the parents you know best. Your brother and sister, if you have them, are the broth...
JAMES SALTER As the essence of courage is to stake one's life on a possibility, so the essence of faith is to bel...
WILLIAM SALTER Blaming therapy, social work and other caring professions for the confabulation of testimony of 'sat...
MICHAEL SALTER There are a range of useful and illuminating analyses of the media construction of organised abuse a...
MICHAEL SALTER As mandatory reporting laws and community awareness drove an increase its child protection investiga...
MICHAEL SALTER Frosh (2002) has suggested that therapeutic spaces provide children and adults with the rare opportu...
MICHAEL SALTER There is no real beauty without some slight imperfection.
JAMES SALTER I like aristocracy. I like the beauty of aristocracy. I like the hierarchical feeling.
JAMES SALTER Like books you will never have the chance to read, there are languages you do not know, and you'...
JAMES SALTER There comes a time when you realize that everything is a dream, and only those things preserved in w...
JAMES SALTER Their life is mysterious, it is like a forest; from far off it seems a unity, it can be comprehended...
JAMES SALTER I find the most difficult part of writing is to get it down initially because what you have written ...
JAMES SALTER It's great to listen to men talk about sports or fights or war or even hunting sometimes, but th...
JAMES SALTER The publishers, as I remember at the very beginning of my career, wrote letters with their fountain ...
JAMES SALTER On the Internet, everyone is writing. There is a great flowering of writing.
JAMES SALTER I spent the night on a sliver of rock high up on the east face of Long's Peak, climbing with Tom...
JAMES SALTER In a certain sense, a writer is an exile, an outsider, always reporting on things, and it is part of...
JAMES SALTER Today, acknowledgement of the prevalence and harms of child sexual abuse is counterbalanced with cau...
MICHAEL SALTER Allegations of multi-perpetrator and multi-victim sexual abuse emerged to public awareness in the ea...
MICHAEL SALTER Chapter 4,‘Organised abuse and the pleasures of disbelief’, uses Zizek’s (1991) insights into ...
MICHAEL SALTER This vacillation between assertion and denial in discussions about organised abuse can be understood...
MICHAEL SALTER I love to write about Nabokov and also to think about him. I love his attitude that he is incomparab...
JAMES SALTER There is no situation like the open road, and seeing things completely afresh. I'm used to trave...
JAMES SALTER So far, our numbers look to be about the same as last year, if you subtract the 300 or so kids from ...
TOM SALTER He was the friend of my life. You know, you only have one friend like that; there can't be two.
JAMES SALTER We came out a little passive. We weren't playing the way we're used to.
ROB SALTER I just lost it. I saw the base line was open. It was just a fraction of an inch.
TOM SALTER My idea of writing is of unflinching and continual effort, somehow trying to find the right words un...
JAMES SALTER Leven is het weer. Leven is maaltijden. Lunch op een blauw-geruit kleed waar zout op is gemorst. De ...
JAMES SALTER Every nation feels itself to be superior, but in America it's a jaunty feeling, and in some case...
JAMES SALTER The notion that anything can be invented wholly and that these invented things are classified as ...
JAMES SALTER I wasted time writing films. I don't look back on those years as lost, but it wasn't what I ...
JAMES SALTER Man was very fortunate to have invented the book. Without it, the past would completely vanish, and ...
JAMES SALTER I knew what my father, more than anything else, wanted me to do. Seventeen, vain, and spoiled by poe...
JAMES SALTER I'm tired of my life, my clothes, the things I say. I'm hacking away at the surface, as at some kind...
JAMES SALTER Women fall in love when they get to know you. Men are just the opposite. When they finally know you ...
JAMES SALTER what it is...is a place where I can return to myself. It's enough of a scramble to get to...that the...
JAY SALTER Some mental healthcare workers are aware of clients with high needs, such as dissociative disorders ...
MICHAEL SALTER I don't hold myself dictated to by what everyone is saying, by the tabloids or popular opinion. ...
JAMES SALTER In 2011 in Swansea, Wales, Colin Batley was found guilty of 35 charges relating to his role as the l...
MICHAEL SALTER Shopping is really complicated if you are a girl.
HELEN SALTER In her book claiming that allegations of ritualistic abuse are mostly confabulations, La Fontaine’...
MICHAEL SALTER Research on organised abuse emphasises the diversity of organised abuse cases, and the ways in which...
MICHAEL SALTER The art of tea, whichever way you drink it, or whichever country you are from, has one underlining t...
NICOLA SALTER Sometimes you are aware when your great moments are happening, and sometimes they rise from the past...
JAMES SALTER In order to establish the narrative that innocent men have been the victims of an epidemic of false ...
MICHAEL SALTER In the early 1990s, a group of people accused of sexual abuse formed the 'False Memory Syndrome Foun...
MICHAEL SALTER Smoke and mirrors’ is a useful metaphor for the ways in which organised abuse has chided conceptua...
MICHAEL SALTER Nonetheless, it remains the case that the psychological literature on organised abuse has not provid...
MICHAEL SALTER Batley insisted that no cult existed but the jury found him guilty of 35 offences including 11 rapes...
MICHAEL SALTER The data on organised abuse has been simplified or distorted in an attempt force it to conform to me...
MICHAEL SALTER The fact that most perpetrators of organised abuse are men, and that their most intensive and sadist...
MICHAEL SALTER Qualitative and quantitative research with adults and children reporting ritual abuse has found that...
MICHAEL SALTER The literature on ritualistic abuse suggests that ritualistic sexual practices with young children a...
MICHAEL SALTER My view is that the false memory campaign is a spent force. It failed to realise its key goals, fail...
MICHAEL SALTER During a period in which women and children’s testimony of incest and sexual abuse were gaining an...
MICHAEL SALTER More arrests are possible in connection with the case.
MARK SALTER We're getting a lot of exposure to top-of-the-line facilities we normally wouldn't have access to. Y...
MARK SALTER We've spent a good bit of money trying to clean up some things to make it conducive to play there. W...
MARK SALTER We're looking forward to playing those games there.
MARK SALTER The way that he has been shooting the ball lately is unbelievable to see.
ROB SALTER Happiness is often at its most intense when it is based on inequality.
JAMES SALTER We will find out Monday if the policy will cover any portion of the students' instruments.
TOM SALTER In all the interviews I have done, I cannot remember one offender who did not admit privately to mor...
ANNA C. SALTER I should meet many people who do not know anyone personally who has been raped or molested as a chil...
ANNA C. SALTER Oddly then, in our search for meaning, we often assign victims too much blame for their assaults, an...
ANNA C. SALTER In projecting onto others their own moral sense, therapists sometimes make terrible errors. Child ph...
ANNA C. SALTER We mute the realization of malevolence- which is too threatening to bear - by turning offenders into...
ANNA C. SALTER The people who support and defend those accused of child sexual abuse indiscriminately, those who jo...
ANNA C. SALTER For every group, malevolence is always somewhere else. Maybe we understand at this point in history ...
ANNA C. SALTER People, in general, tend to project onto others their own state of mind. Well-meaning people inevita...
ANNA C. SALTER It is important to refuse to be intimidated. That refusal must not be based simply on a calculation ...
ANNA C. SALTER Once, in a three-day taping that included several sadists, the material was so overwhelming that bot...
ANNA C. SALTER over and over victims are blamed for their assaults. and when we imply that victims bring on their o...
ANNA C. SALTER Malevolence takes a bite out off your spirit. Just sitting with it, just talking with people who con...
ANNA C. SALTER Recently I interviewed a psychopath. This is always a humbling experience because it teaches over an...
ANNA C. SALTER You don’t have to feed the lie if you don’t want it to. If you make it credible it will become t...
HOWARD L. SALTER A lie carries a weight that is exponentially higher than the truth. It’s weight will retard growth...
HOWARD L. SALTER In a series of three studies, the offenders who claimed they were abused as a child were 67 percent,...
ANNA C. SALTER In musing on all that occurred in the course of the several years of harassment the error I decided ...
ANNA C. SALTER Jan Hindman knows all too well that people who have lied for decades about their offending would lie...
ANNA C. SALTER Are Child Molesters Really Just Victims Themselves?
"All victims are offenders," one professio...
ANNA C. SALTER It is a political fight between a group of well-financed, well-organized people whose freedom, livel...
ANNA C. SALTER I am ugly. I am black inside, rotting and putrid.
AIMEE L. SALTER No observational problem will not be solved by more data.
VERA RUBIN Does Sex Matter? Of course it does. But does it matter enough to Matter? That's a different ques...
VERA RUBIN Science progresses best when observations force us to alter our preconceptions.
VERA RUBIN In between 15 and 20 - probably at around 17 - my interests switched from hard rock to punk rock. An...
RICK RUBIN Whenever I'm trying to decide how to spend my precious time, energy, or money, I ask myself a se...
GRETCHEN RUBIN What is good is what feels good, and what is bad is what feels bad.
MARTY RUBIN The angel in me loves the devil in me.
MARTY RUBIN Science progresses best when observations force us to alter our preconceptions
VERA RUBIN Happiness does not come from doing easy work but from the afterglow of satisfaction that comes after...
THEODORE RUBIN Language is a park where people meet.
MARTY RUBIN Some people have such good taste they can't enjoy anything.
MARTY RUBIN Freedom began on the day the first sheep wandered away from the herd.
MARTY RUBIN Mirrors: they show you what you lack, not what you have.
MARTY RUBIN A poet is someone who never forgets that they were born naked.
MARTY RUBIN A poet is someone who never forgets they were born naked.
MARTY RUBIN Even the oldest trees aren't ashamed to stand naked.
MARTY RUBIN Civilization is a scheme to hide nakedness.
MARTY RUBIN Laughter is more than just a pleasurable activity...When people laugh together, they tend to talk an...
GRETCHEN RUBIN The belief that unhappiness is selfless and happiness is selfish is misguided. It's more selfless to...
GRETCHEN RUBIN The problem is not that there are problems. The problem is expecting otherwise and thinking that hav...
THEODORE RUBIN People think in such grand terms-unconditional love, changing the world, doing the impossible. They ...
MARTY RUBIN Tell me where the party is-I want to miss it.
MARTY RUBIN A few names have survived oblivion. In time, oblivion will have them all.
MARTY RUBIN Most men act so tough and strong on the outside because on the inside, we are scared, weak, and frag...
JERRY RUBIN I must learn to love the fool in me the one who feels too much, talks too much, takes too many chanc...
THEODORE RUBIN Kindness is more important than wisdom, and the recognition of this is the beginning of wisdom.
THEODORE RUBIN By the end, everybody had a label -- pig, liberal, radical, revolutionary ... If you had everything ...
JERRY RUBIN The backseat produced the sexual revolution.
JERRY RUBIN Most men act so tough and strong on the outside because on the inside, we are scared, weak, and fr...
JERRY RUBIN No belief runs more counter to experience than the belief in a benevolent god.
MARTY RUBIN Never start a sentence with the words 'No offense.
GRETCHEN RUBIN Now that I've relinquished my fantasies of all the people I wish I could be, and stopped feeling gui...
GRETCHEN RUBIN Often, if there's something that I want to do, but somehow can't get myself to do, it's ...
GRETCHEN RUBIN One of the best ways to make yourself happy in the present is to recall happy times from the past. P...
GRETCHEN RUBIN Turn off your email; turn off your phone; disconnect from the Internet; figure out a way to set limi...
GRETCHEN RUBIN At 15, I started listening to hard rock and heavy metal, but I would say it was more hard rock becau...
RICK RUBIN I played more of an advisory role with Public Enemy. I really trusted them to make the music that th...
RICK RUBIN People's computers are not getting more secure. They're getting more infected with viruses. ...
AVI RUBIN When Prime Minister Neville Chamberlain's government fell in May 1940, the nation turned to Chur...
GRETCHEN RUBIN I'm a compulsive note-taker, and I used to feel self-conscious about pulling out my little noteb...
GRETCHEN RUBIN Getting paperwork under control makes me feel more in control of my life generally.
GRETCHEN RUBIN Work done by other people sounds easy. How hard can it be to take care of a newborn who sleeps 20 ho...
GRETCHEN RUBIN We need to have intimate, enduring bonds; we need to be able to confide; we need to feel that we bel...
GRETCHEN RUBIN I have a lucky perfume. I love beautiful smells, but I save one of my favorite perfumes to wear only...
GRETCHEN RUBIN Don't let yourself fall into 'empty.' Keep cash in the house. Keep gas in your tank. Kee...
GRETCHEN RUBIN Don't keep excessive amounts of anything. Those glass vases that come from florists. Those ketch...
GRETCHEN RUBIN Watching TV is companionable: you share an experience, you can comment on the action here and there ...
GRETCHEN RUBIN People are powerfully moved by imagination, belief, and knowledge. They can consider the past and fu...
GRETCHEN RUBIN Superstition is the irrational belief that an object or behavior has the power to influence an outco...
GRETCHEN RUBIN Each week, I post a video about some 'Pigeon of Discontent' raised by a reader. Because, as ...
GRETCHEN RUBIN A 'treat' is different from a 'reward,' which must be justified or earned. A treat i...
GRETCHEN RUBIN Happiness is a critical factor for work, and work is a critical factor for happiness. In one of thos...
GRETCHEN RUBIN One thing I wish I could tell my younger self: take photos of everyday life, not special occasions; ...
GRETCHEN RUBIN In the scope of a happy life, a messy desk or an overstuffed coat closet is a trivial thing, yet I f...
GRETCHEN RUBIN Habit allows us to go from 'before' to 'after,' to make life easier and better. Habi...
GRETCHEN RUBIN Being taken for granted is an unpleasant but sincere form of praise. Ironically, the more reliable y...
GRETCHEN RUBIN Working is one of the most dangerous forms of procrastination.
GRETCHEN RUBIN Negative emotions like loneliness, envy, and guilt have an important role to play in a happy life; t...
GRETCHEN RUBIN Everything happens kind of the way it's supposed to happen, and we just watch it unfold. And you...
RICK RUBIN No leader did more for his country than Winston Churchill. Brave, magnanimous, traditional, he was l...
GRETCHEN RUBIN I know how to make myself happy, but I don't know how to make you happy.
MARTY RUBIN During my study of happiness, I noticed something that surprised me: I often learn more from one per...
GRETCHEN RUBIN He's told us through his agent that if he's healthy enough, he'll play. As far as what the chances a...
BEN RUBIN From what I understand, he's healthy and playing right now and if he's feeling the same way come cha...
BEN RUBIN Those are astonishing figures and it really shows the magnitude of this major championship.
BEN RUBIN Adding those players to the field we already had going, they're great additions to the championship ...
BEN RUBIN I get such a buzz out of cleaning closets.
GRETCHEN RUBIN Some kind of clutter is difficult - letting go of things with sentimental value, sifting through pap...
GRETCHEN RUBIN The more I examine the issue of clutter, the more effort I put into combating it, because it really ...
GRETCHEN RUBIN If you've had something for more than six months, and it's still not repaired, it's clut...
GRETCHEN RUBIN I really work on paying attention to the clues my self is giving myself. For instance, I think of my...
GRETCHEN RUBIN When you're vegan, you spend your time chasing protein, and you're eating food that's wa...
RICK RUBIN I love finding - or inventing - ways to categorize people.
GRETCHEN RUBIN Water flows because it's willing.
MARTY RUBIN Poets create gods, philosophers destroy them.
MARTY RUBIN I don't think with today's technology we can have a voting system that is fully electronic that can ...
AVI RUBIN What we did is important because we proved that virtually all of the wireless networks used by compa...
AVI RUBIN It is a complete and devastating break of the security of wireless networks.
AVI RUBIN Somebody with questionable moral judgment isn't someone you want to have control of your networks.
AVI RUBIN You have to attack your own system in order to understand how hackers are attacking your system and ...
AVI RUBIN I don't think vendors are going to build in privacy protections if there is no incentive for profit.
AVI RUBIN In the car industry they have to build with safety in mind. Car makers couldn't get away with this. ...
AVI RUBIN People have jumped on the electronic voting bandwagon, thinking that will solve the problems, ... Bu...
AVI RUBIN [The Chinese researchers] haven't caused panic yet, ... it's definitely a wake-up call.
AVI RUBIN As new generations [of computers] come out, usually there are increased complexity and features, [th...
AVI RUBIN Weeds are stubborn. Weeds are independent. Weeds aren't tolerated.
MARTY RUBIN Seekers, what are you seeking? Why aren't you happy just to be alive?
MARTY RUBIN Keep in mind that to avoid loneliness, many people need both a social circle and an intimate attachm...
GRETCHEN RUBIN I collect axioms, paradoxes, maxims, teaching stories, proverbs, and aphorisms of all sorts, because...
GRETCHEN RUBIN People often assume that the same approach will work for everyone, that the same habits will work fo...
GRETCHEN RUBIN We can use decision-making to choose the habits we want to form, use willpower to get the habit star...
GRETCHEN RUBIN Don't let the perfect be the enemy of the good. Lower the bar. Actually spending ten minutes cle...
GRETCHEN RUBIN Nature is impersonal, awe-inspiring, elegant, eternal. It's geometrically perfect. It's tiny...
GRETCHEN RUBIN I think that, you know, looking at all the systems that I've been studying over the last several...
AVI RUBIN A person with 'oppositional conversational style' is a person who, in conversation, disagree...
GRETCHEN RUBIN From the time I was 9 years old, I loved magic. I was an only child, and I think that had a big impa...
RICK RUBIN Solitude is where one discovers one is not alone.
MARTY RUBIN It's not the wound that teaches, but the healing.
MARTY RUBIN Who gave fire permission to burn?
MARTY RUBIN A basket of ripe fruit is holier than any prayer book.
MARTY RUBIN If the light's not in you, you're in the dark.
MARTY RUBIN Words of the hero: "I am my fate.
MARTY RUBIN With some masks, the amount of medicine available to the youngest children is severely decreased bec...
BRUCE RUBIN The seal between the mask and the face is critical for drug delivery. If the mask doesn't fit tightl...
BRUCE RUBIN Dead space volume in the mask contains drug that doesn't get into the lung with each breath.
BRUCE RUBIN The American economic system rewards those who take great risks with commensurate benefits. The comp...
BRUCE RUBIN Morning not only forgives, it forgets.
MARTY RUBIN We still have a goal, and that is to have the University commit to not invest in any of these compan...
BRAD RUBIN At this point, ratings aren't as crucial as they used to be.
BRAD RUBIN I don't think he is going to push the nuclear weapon button.
BRAD RUBIN The credit story did not change that much. I would have liked to see more color on how fast they wil...
BRAD RUBIN You're going to see production declines by both GM and Ford through 2008. That's going to have a neg...
BRAD RUBIN The salaried workers are certainly going to be touched by this. By how much, it's difficult to say.
BRAD RUBIN Even if there were a strike, it would be for a short time and would only have a minimal financial im...
BRAD RUBIN Without pressure from Wall Street, they would never have got things moving. It took Wall Street to w...
BRAD RUBIN