A Man who has the confidence to not feel the need to defend his point of view and at the same time possess the openness to accept other's point of view, without being judgemental, yet managing
to stay true to his convictions - Is the Man of Real Substance!

The Sieves of time, filter out the fakes from the real.
Don't look back for them, they were filtered out for
your refinement.

When you graduate from "Being In Love" to "Loving Someone" you understand - Love is not about owning, Love is about wanting the best for them, It's about seeing or Helping them achieve great heights, with or without you. Love is not what you say, it's what you do.

The only way to understand the reason behind someone's hurtful behaviour is -

Understanding that every action is driven by an underlying emotion. Emotions especially the negative one's are our reactions to the conflict between our beliefs and reality.

The influence of these negative emotions, causes us to act in ways that hurt others.

So if someone hurts you, it actually indicates
that they have an unsatisfied need or a wound
that needs attention.

When someone is hurt and
we hear ourselves saying
"I don't understand, why"
PAUSE
At the pause, ask "What am I missing here ?"
At the pause, stop judging, stop reacting,
get curious and believe their hurt state
At the pause, tap into their heart and mind.
Now see how this pause transforms the conversation.

Sometimes, when I am sad,
I am not sad for myself.
I am sad for the world,
I am sad to see where we are going.
I am sad to see how we can
smile by making someone else sad.
I am sad to see how we have
killed our conscience and keep
toying with emotions
I am sad to see how people
are confusing selfishness
with self love.
I am sad to see how we have come to
a stage where we trust strangers
more than friends.

Let's fix this, Let's open our hearts
Let's listen to them, let's do our bit.