A good person always see the positive sites of other people

Steve [sports psychiatrist] had already taught me to try and stop worrying so much about pleasing everyone. We knew that this was one of my most draining flaws and he again used three groups to clarify my thinking. There would always be some people, Steve said, who would care about me and love me. In contrast there would also be a select group of people who would never warm to me - no matter what I did. And in the middle came the overwhelming mass who were largely indifferent to any of my failures or triumphs. I needed to understand that most people didn't really care what I did or said. All my anguish about how they might perceive me was redundant. Steve helped me realize that I spent too much time trying to please those oblivious people in the middle or, more problematically, the small group who would never change their critical opinion of me. I should concentrate on the people who really did show concern for me.

Don’t focus on the action, focus on the mentality behind the action. Analyzing the mentality will help us differentiate between a one-time error and a long-term character flaw.

Passive-Aggressive behavior consumes unnecessary time and resources. Say what you mean, let's resolve the issue, and move on to more productive tasks.

Ama yasa diye bir şey yoksa? O zaman ne yapar?.. Türkiye'de yasa diye bir şey kalmamış anlıyor musun? Onun için kimseden korkuları yok. Böyle bir durumda ast üst ilişkileri yok oluyor çünkü. Kimi kime şikâyet edeceksin? Yönetimin kimin elinde olduğu belli değil ki... En yetkili belli değil ki... Kendileri de bilmiyorlar. Karışmazlar birbirlerinin işine, herkes dilediğini yapıyor ve hiç bir kısıtlama, hiç bir kısıtlayan yok... Korkunç olan bu...

She didn't give a damn about some of them, but she had grown to learn that inattention can be a stratagem to avoid pain, and that it is often misread as shallowness and indifference.