كلُّ من يقولُ إن النساء لا يتمتعن بنفوذ على قرارات أزواجهن يرتكبُ خطأ فادحًا و غبيًا

I think all women have a friend who at some point dumped them or betrayed them or deeply disappointed them. And at the same time all women have a friend who they dumped or betrayed or hurt in some way. That's universal in women's friendships.

Until that moment I'd thought I could have it both ways; to be one of them, and also my husband's wife. What conceit! I was his instrument, his animal. Nothing more. How we wives and mothers do perish at the hands of our own righteousness. I was just one more of those women who clamp their mouths shut and wave the flag as their nation rolls off to conquer another in war. Guilty or innocent, they have everything to lose. They are what there is to lose. A wife is the earth itself, changing hands, bearing scars.

To be a husband or a wife is not just a solemnized or authenticated title. It is a role that, for all intents and purposes, has to be exercised.

عادت الزوجة تسأله : لماذا تتعامل معي بالرموز ومع غيري بالكنوز ؟
قال الزوج : الكنوز تفنى بينما الرموز باقية

A good husband makes a good wife.